Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

When I’m speaking of women that make good friends, I’m talking about to other women.  I’ve touched on this topic before in my blog about lesbians making awesome friends. But a new friend of mine inspired me to add to the list.
Apparently, porn stars also make great friends. My friend Nica is in the adult [...]

I used to lament about the lack of lesbians, or more accurately, my lack of gaydar which made it seem as if there were only six lesbians in the South Bay and I already knew them. But lately everywhere I go I’m noticing more and more gay girls.
It could be that it’s so trendy to [...]

I would say that I am a femme/top. Whoa. What? Is that possible? Hell yea it’s possible. Normally this is not a problem, especially when two femmes are dating. I mean, someone’s got to bring the strap-on! Or even sans strap-on, someone’s got to be the aggressor. That person is usually me. Or at [...]

If there’s one thing that irks me, it’s when people who are already aware that I identify as an out lesbian think they have the right to contradict that fact. Based on what? The fact that they a) barely know me b) I’ve been in serious relationships with men in the past c) they don’t [...]

Desire is something that should be almost irresistible. When you meet someone that you just have to have, you just have to touch, to kiss, to be with … it should be almost painful to abstain from any of those things.
But what about when you meet someone who makes you laugh, makes you feel comfortable [...]

Today a straight friend of mine said to me, “Why do you talk about being gay all the time? It’s not like I run around all day talking about how straight I am.”
I wasn’t sure what she meant so I questioned her and her response was that she thought I talked a lot about gay [...]

Earlier today I was shopping at Targay when my friend Amber sent me a text that read: I have something for you to blog about! When she’s right she’s right … and this is the topic that was on her mind.
We all know one, or ten … a straight chick that loudly proclaims she’ll just [...]

I was literally floored yesterday when on my way home from the gym I saw that gas had reached $4.19 a gallon for super unleaded. Which really hurts me, since I drive an old Caddy that can only handle the very best, i.e. super duper unleaded.What’s a girl to do when she needs to get [...]

As I was walking around Pride this past weekend I kept hearing snippets of conversations from various groups of women but they all sounded remarkably like this, “Why are lesbians so unattractive?”
After hearing this opinion voiced by more than just my group of judgmental friends I took a better look. My eyes were met with [...]

Answer these questions as honestly as possible and email them to me if you want me to consider you for the highly drama wrought position of becoming my future ex-girlfriend.
Duties will entail a hot and heavy start to what will seem like a whirlwind romance. But will quickly decline to nothing but a flat fizzle [...]

Hey ladies, as all of you local girls already know it’s Long Beach Pride this weekend! Thank gawd, since I am in serious need of some insane debauchery and new, embarrassing pics of my crew getting drunk and lucky. OK, I don’t need pics of them getting lucky, but a few pics of the lucky [...]

Tonight at our weekly “club” meeting I was immersed in a deep conversation with my girlfriends about why lesbians seem to be able to form closer, more truthful friendships with one another than our straight counterparts.
To avoid the inevitable repercussions of accidentally misquoting any of my friends I will stick strictly to my own opinions [...]

Women are the most delicious thing on this planet. I just can’t tell you how proud I am to be an out lesbian in LA.
Since I’ve come out, not just to my friends and family, but to myself I’ve really struggled with my place in this world. As I’m sure most if not all LGBT [...]

Since I’ve started Card Carrying Lesbian I’ve been surprised and a little hurt when a friend here or there would confide something in me and then right away, almost out of fright beg, “Oh gawd, please don’t blog about this!!!”
Well I wanted to set the record straight about what I consider off limits. Consider this [...]

Since butch women are my current obsession, so to speak I’ve been thinking about the differences between butch and femme. What those labels imply, what it means to be either or both or neither in many cases. I’ve heard from a lot of women on both sides of the table and I have to tell [...]

What I’ve noticed when I talk to most lesbians is that they have a strong opinion on butch women. Maybe it’s just because we’re in LA, where the cultural idea of femininity is not only abundant, it’s extreme. If you doubt what I’m saying just look around at all the silicone walking around on two [...]

So as some of you already know … I had a disaster of a date this weekend. Skipping over the details that bruise my ego I’ll get right to the point.
I realize that dating someone is not only bad for me, it’s worse for my career. Because dating implies that I like the person. Which [...]

Chemistry is a cruel science. Sometimes no matter how many things are on the plus side of the column, if that instant physical connection isn’t there, you’re doomed.
Then you have to look at all those pluses and ask yourself, “Is this worth the possible heartache in exchange for what could be an amazing friendship?”
The [...]

I was looking on Amazon for a book about the butch/femme dynamic and I saw a book called “Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity” and I was struck by something a reviewer wrote. What she said that caught my attention was:
“My femme friends who are also in their 30’s and I have discussed whether or not [...]

On the car lot of lesbian dating there are the “New” lesbians. Those would be your typical baby dykes. Newly out and/or young enough not have been ruined by repeated heartbreaks and Prozac.
Then there are the “Certified Pre-Owned” lesbians.
Your Certified Pre-Owned Lesbian comes to you in impeccable condition, inspected by technicians using a checklist [...]