Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

When two women agree on a no strings attached, friends with benefits, don’t ask don’t tell policy attached to their pseudo relationship/”we’re only friends” friendship; what does that say about them?
Does that say that one or both of them are:

Cheaters looking for an easy, almost honest way to keep sleeping around?
Incapable of commitment?
Too horny [...]

A while ago a reader named Donna left this comment:
I think the 20-something lesbians of today are - or are trying to be - the equivalents of the gay men of the 70s. i missed out on all that since I’m now 40, and I’m glad for that.
Which made me wonder, do we fuck too [...]

There are countless ways to define the femme identity/gender and as many ways for each woman to express it in her own way. But for the purpose of this single blog I will define these two versions as such:
High Femme: a femme lesbian who is ultra feminine in her appearance and behavior. May chose to [...]

I wonder what weight people actually place on the myspace relationship status thingy? If it reads “single” vs “in a relationship” does that affect whether or not you send them an add request? If it reads “swinger” do you think you have a better shot at getting lucky? Or do think, “Eeeewwww …. my [...]

It’s one thing to blog about yourself and confess all the countless reasons that you are unsuitable for “in a relationship” status. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting when one of your “victims” leaves a biting, yet true comment on said blog confirming your less than ideal view of yourself.
I won’t apologize for anything [...]

Getting involved with emotionally unavailable women.
Yep, I’m sooo guilty of that it’s not even funny. But when I look at it from a deeper perspective I’m forced to admit that part of the reason I’m attracted to these emotionally distant women is because I’m as unavailable and cold as they are. If not more.
Not that [...]

So last night was a particularly painful evening and I have no body to blame but myself. An ex of mine that happens to be the only girl I have a hard time getting over called me out of the blue a few days ago. She wants to be friends … according to her, “Her [...]

I don’t know if this is a lesbian thing or not? Maybe it’s a lesser version of the U-haul syndrome but whatever it is, we need to find a cure.
When you go out on a date with a girl, you are not automatically “dating”. Likewise, when you are “dating” someone, you are not automatically “together” [...]

I thought that when I started dating butch women that things would be easier, clearer in some ways. That perhaps some semblance of psuedo-gender roles might be in place, making it easier to navigate through the single scene if I knew who did what when.
But no such luck. Not only does it not clarify my [...]

Yesterday was my very first porn convention. I was lucky enough to be the date of my amazingly beautiful friend, Nica who runs Sweet Heart Video.
The adult entertainment industry is really a whole other world. As I carefully embark on what could be a new career field, working behind the scenes in “lesbian erotica” I [...]

So as some of you may know working as a freelance writer has it’s ups and downs. Even when you sell an article it’s weeks before you see a dime on all your hard work. There are other ways to whore my art out … copywriting, ghostwriting, you get the point.  All of which I [...]

It can be depressing being a lesbian. Wait, not just depressing but down right discouraging. I could go on and on about how there aren’t enough single, attractive lesbians running around but boo fucking hoo. Who hasn’t heard that a million times?
I’ve been feeling especially energetic lately (my euphemism for something a bit more tawdry) [...]

From my experiences in the straight world and the lesbian world I’ve noticed something diametrically opposed to one another. Well, at least for myself. When I was dating boys, I thought the fewer men I was with the better. I really kept my numbers low and I was very proud of that fact.
However in the [...]