When two women agree on a no strings attached, friends with benefits, don’t ask don’t tell policy attached to their pseudo relationship/”we’re only friends” friendship; what does that say about them?
Does that say that one or both of them are:
- Cheaters looking for an easy, almost honest way to keep sleeping around?
- Incapable of commitment?
- Too horny not to grope each other whenever the opportunity strikes?
- Simply afraid of commitment for any number of neurotic personal issues that they seem unable to fix, medicate or ignore at this time?
- That they’re just not that into one another and are using each other to pass the time till something better comes along?
- Or my personal favorite: One of them is a user and the other one is an idiot?
- When someone agrees to an NSA situation does that say something about her self esteem or does it just say she’s a slut?
- Does it say that she’s so hung up on someone that she’s willing to sacrifice what she really wants for just a little taste of the real thing?
I suppose any and all of those are possibilities depending on the situation. I’ll even go as far as saying that the reasons for a NSA relationship could be fluid. Meaning that the motivation for staying in such a situation could fluctuate from one day to the next. She may have agreed to it because she was so into you, she didn’t want to lose you. But as time goes on and other women look her way, she might start to see it differently. More like an advantage than a compromise.
So I’m curious to know, how do you feel about NSA relationships? And I’m not talking about one night stands with people you met on Craigslist. I mean a long-term agreement between two women to be friends, but have commitment free sex whenever one or both of them want it.
Is this a good idea gone bad? Or can there be mutually beneficial factors for everyone involved?
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with NSA one night stands. But if it goes longer than that you better watch your back baby girl. Im not saying this is you, but if it is you can do better. If it’s you who wants the no strings than go for it. But I wouldn’t put up with it from you or anyone else. Once I get you in my bed, I’m not sharing.
I like nsa’s. They serve a purpose. But it can get F’d up if you start to care about the person.
Jihan, you’re still a bitch. I can’t believe you’re still acting like this, I would have hoped that you grew up a little since we were together but it looks like your still up to your old games. As afraid of commitment as you ever were. I hope no one ever takes you seriously.
Sorry ladies, I think you were all commenting at the same time so I’m only posting your first response. I have to moderate comments due to spam. But since a few of you submitted the same comment a few times, I’m sure you only wanted it posted once. But thanks for the enthusiasm!
Melissa, I normally wouldn’t want to respond to a comment like that but since you called me out publicly I wanted to say something: I wasn’t the only bitch in that relationship. I remember you saying that you hated my puppy because he was taking time and attention away from you. He was so sick he almost died and you gave me shit about taking care of a sick, baby puppy! So yes, maybe I was a bitch, but I wasn’t alone in that.
I’m a fan. I’m also recently interested in “open relationships” not because I want to fuck whomever whenever, I just don’t want the expectations or want to have them for someone else. I’m letdown either way. I have heard that the relationships that last the longest are the ones that never make promises.
personally, i dont care for nsa relationships, but it’s like…whatever ur comfortable with. each person is different. if someone wanted a nsa relationship w/ me, i know i wouldn’t be able to handle it so i wouldn’t agree to it. simple as that.
if someone can’t handle that situation, then they shouldn’t get involved…right?