Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

In my most recent post blog I asked you, the reader to share your opinion on NSA relationships. While a few of you went beyond the call of duty and made your comments a bit more personal than I had hoped for, a couple of you were kind enough to give me your honest opinion.

Which leads me to this blog. My friend Maggie left this comment:

“I’m a fan. I’m also recently interested in “open relationships” not because I want to fuck whomever whenever, I just don’t want the expectations or want to have them for someone else. I’m letdown either way. I have heard that the relationships that last the longest are the ones that never make promises.”

It was as if someone flipped the switch and that tiny little light bulb that lives in a bubble over my head went on! Ah ha! An open relationship! That sounds so much better than a NSA thingy.

What’s the difference you ask? Well let me enlighten you, according to Sasha’s logic:

A “NSA” relationship infers that there is little to no feelings attached to whatever physical activities the two are engaged in. Meaning that there is absolutely no emotional or physical intimacy shared between the two, even if the two are occasionally naked together.

However, an open relationship implies the possibility there are feelings of attachment, caring and perhaps even a little or a lot of intimacy shared between the two. However they recognize that at this time, a closed, committed relationship would be doomed. So instead of throwing the baby out with the bath water, they agree to an open relationship.

Eureka! I think I like this whole open relationship thing! It sounds so much more mature and less tawdry than NSA. No strings attached has the tacky feeling of craigslist or drunken nights at your local dive bar. But an open relationship holds onto some semblance of respectability … if you look at it from a slight distance and squint a little.

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