By Guest Writer, Raye A lot of assumption, arguments, and judgments have been made about the phenomenon of “stone butches” over the years and being newly single and approaching the idea of new, unfamiliar lovers, I was contemplating this very subject the other day. While I am not a completely “stone” butch, I am pretty [...]
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Coming Out & Coming to Terms
By Guest Butch, Raye All of the questioning and sexual fluidity on the blog lately has inspired me to write something to explain my stance on these issues and perhaps offer some hope and support (GASP) to the bisexual, questioning and unsure women who are reading this site looking for answers. I know many of [...]
Advanced Tips for Femmes
By guest blogger, Raye Many butches are not used to someone wanting them. It throws them off. You femmes don’t realize how rare a butch-loving femme really is. All you see is that you can’t find any butches and you notice all the femmes in competition with you for one. Oddly enough this is [...]
How To Flirt with a Butchie
By Guest Butch, Raye I have always hated dating. Even when I was newly out and in my twenties, I liked the attention I got from women but I was terrified to ask women out. I think it stems from the fact that when I did get bold enough (or drunk enough) to hit on [...]
Raye and Sarah’s Happily Ever After
The following post is by Guest Butch, Raye Some of you know by now that I popped the question to my girlfriend of over three years on Christmas Day. I chose Christmas Day because in the beginning of our relationship, we had both been hurt recently and were extremely reluctant to use the 3 word [...]
A letter to a Young Butch…
By Guest Butch, Raye At first I was going to put this as a comment but it ended up being too long because this is a subject near and dear to my heart. Sorry I am late to respond… I am sick in bed with some gawd awful stomach bug and have been for a [...]
Butchie Bravado and the Chivalrous Faceplant
OMG …. Look who’s back?! It’s Raye!!!! Yay!!!! Enjoy her newest blog post! By Guest Butch, Raye I have been on vacation and taking some personal time to spend with my girlfriend and son lately. During this down time I have noticed a few things that I thought about writing but just haven’t had the [...]
My defense… gloves off
You know I felt it appropriate to discuss this matter rationally and with clarity of thought. But then my reaction to LB’s post pissed me off & I thought I would fight fire with fire. I make no apologies for the observations I made. The only place I feel mistaken is trying to relate to [...]
Chivalry is being murdered slowly… mostly by women.
Recently LB_Boi brought up the subject of chivalry and posed the question of whether it is dead or not. As another chivalrous butch, I decided to weigh in on the subject because like it or not, we are a dying breed. And I have a few theories on this. One of them has to be [...]
Soccer Moms, Femmes, Butches & Stereotypes
And she’s back Everyone’s favorite politically incorrect butch, Raye is back and from the looks of it, a few of you may have some explaining to do . My less than politically correct previous blog set off a firestorm of controversy and I wanted to address some assumptions and statements that were made by the [...]
A response for Martini-gurl
You know I love it when any of CCL’s Guest Butches chime in . Well here’s a response from Guest Butch Raye. Hey Martini-gurl, I decided to form this response to Sasha’s straight girl blog as a full on blog for two reasons: First I knew it would be long winded, therefore did not need [...]
Not “Technically” Single Butchie Seeks Perspective
I just want to make it clear, since there have been many times, that even close friends of mine have not noticed the byline saying that a particular article was not written by me, Sasha The following post is by my dear friend and one of CCL’s guest writers, Raye. Written by Guest Butch, Raye [...]
Cocksucker lips and the social masterbation phenomenon…
Written by Guest Butch, Raye I have a pet peeve about girls and their social networking site pictures. For some reason this phenomenon has overtaken the women of the current twenty-something generation. It is a condition usually referred to as cocksucker lips. In case you have not noticed this, it is when the girl in [...]
Rules for Chasing Straight Women
Written by Guest Butch, Raye A couple of years ago my friend Stacey (queen of the straight chick rodeo) blogged these rules for lesbians who chase after straight women. I thought they needed a re-up. It’s great info and quite insightful. Enjoy. Rule #1: If you’re her friend (and want to stay that way) or [...]
LGBT Media Forsakes Butches
I have been following a few celebrity lesbians quite a bit recently and have begun to notice more and more proof of my theories, about not only the straight media but even our own lesbian media becoming seriously anti-butch. I am sure this is not really news to most of you but I would like [...]