I swear that CCL has not become a “marijuana blog” …. I didn’t even want to write about this. In fact, it’s felt a lot like coming out all over again, except it’s harder. Because unlike being gay, I actually had internalized stigma attached to cannabis that I had to get over and I get [...]
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Who Wants More Cake?
Hi Sasha, I recently began following your blog and love it! You seem to really know women, so I’m hoping you can guide me in the best direction. I’ve been in a relationship with my…I hesitate to say this, girlfriend, since we were in high school It was flaming hot the first 2 years, but when [...]
Advice For The Lost
Hi Sasha, I think I just need a third party perspective on something and for some unbeknown reason after frequently reading your blog I thought I’d turn to you. To make a long story short, my girlfriend is totally different when she drinks. She tends to push me away physically and emotionally. She says hurtful [...]
Menopausal Lesbians
I got this email from a reader and didn’t really have any good advice to offer her. Her problem is that her girlfriend is going through menopause. Which as women, is something we are ALL going to go through eventually. To be more specific, the problem she is having is that her girlfriend is having [...]
Femme on Femme Advice
I’ve gotten a few emails lately from femmes that are only attracted to other femmes. They are wondering why that isn’t represented more on this, or other blogs. It seems that the butch/femme dynamic is the more widely accepted arrangement. So I wanted to address that a little. First of all, you might not have [...]
The Straight Girl Curse
Sasha, I just recently discovered your blog and it being fairly late on a night where I had to get up early the next morning, I of course read through several pages of posts and realized that sleep was for the weak.(or maybe just for people who have more self control than I have). I [...]
Advice For a Femme Lesbian in the Closet
Firstly I want to say that I *love* reading your blog. Even though Im lesbian, Im not actually all that interested in… things aimed at the gay community, like Mardi Gras… or gay porn. (bad example, I know – shows how out of touch I am.) But I really like your blog. Ive got [...]
Congratualtions! You’re Gay!
Dear Sasha, I am writing to you hoping that you can help me. I am 22 years old and I think I’m gay. I think I’m in love with my best friend who is straight! She tells me all the time that if one of us were a boy that we would be perfect together. [...]
10 Signs You’re Dating the Wrong Person
I have a few single girlfriends that come to me for dating advice along with the random emails from readers telling me about their loveless love lives and asking me what they’re doing wrong, or what they’re missing. And I’ve noticed a few glaring commonalities among the single and confused. So I thought I would [...]
Femme Tips
I just received a call for help from a fellow femme sister. She is tired of being mistaken for a member of PFLAG at gay events. She is tired of having to come out, on a daily basis, of being made to feel that she does not belong to the lesbian community because her physical [...]
Tips For Helping a Bipolar Partner
Within the last week, I received three emails from different women. One that lives with bipolar and two that love women that struggle with it. The most recent email was a bit of an emergency. The girl that wrote to me, loves dearly, a woman that has been suffering with this and in recent weeks, [...]
Advice for “What If?”
OK here goes… I am engaged to the love of my life (X) We’ve known each other for years and with a lot of ups and downs-broken hearts – we have finally made it. The heartbreak was caused from her 5 years ago, and then again about 4 years ago… But we moved passed it, [...]
Advice for a Butch that loves a Femme
I recently received an email asking for advice and it was titled, Advice for a butch who loves a bipolar femme? After reading through it, it made my head spin a bit. I’m going to cut her problem down to a short summary because, basically she’s screwed. This butch loves this femme that is bipolar. [...]
Advice for a Femme with a Butch Problem
Hi Sasha, I’ve recently become addicted to your blog, especially all the butch/femme threads. I’m in Australia and haven’t really had all that much exposure to the Butch/Femme dynamic and am becoming fascinated by it. I’m trying to work out where I sit in the spectrum. I know labels aren’t for everyone but I really [...]
Advice for a Lovely Slovakian
Dear Sasha, erm, I don’t even know how to start all this and I really don’t know why I’m writing to you either but…maybe it’s because I don’t like to talk to people about my personal, inner life, not even to my friends and I feel like I need to get certain things out of [...]