Hey Sasha, I need some advice and was hoping you could help. Here’s a little of my background… I’m a 21 year old college student from a small town in Texas (conservative ass town with practically no gay scene). In high school I met this guy and felt a lot of pressure from my mom [...]
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Advice For Lesbians Who Love Bipolar Chicks
Sasha, I had to write because I can’t explain how much a part of your blog has helped me. The “Bipolar Sasha” blogs have literally helped save my relationship. See, my girlfriend also has bipolar disorder, and I on the other hand am painfully normal. No mania, no adorable quirks, no blind anger. I’m kind [...]
Player, Cheater or Just Single?
Hey Sasha, I have a question for your readers. I’m having a moral dilemma of sorts. Do you think it’s alright to date two women at once? I’ve never been in this position before and I’m not sure what to do. I can honestly say I like both equally but I don’t know either well [...]
Butches with Ink
A close friend of ours asked me if I took requests. Do I take requests?? Honey puh-leez! I’m all about pleasing Her question to me was actually more for the femmes in the audience. She kindly asks, “What do femmes think of butches with tattoos?” This by the way, is coming from a super suave, [...]
How to Get a Domestic Partnership in Cali
I originally posted this on the Huffington Post. But thought it would be good to have in my archives for when people ask me about it. Before signing domestic partnership papers with my wife last year (yes, I call her my wife), we were told by several people who had walked that path before us [...]
Advice for the Marriage-Phobic
What time is it? Oh yea, it’s advice time! Another reader wrote in with a topic close to her heart and she wants you all to weigh in on it. So put your thinking caps on and help her out. She wrote: Hi. I’ve been a reader of your blog for the past 2 months [...]
Sorority Girl Needs Advice
A young femme needs our help! So put your good-advice caps on and let’s set this chickie on the right road. Hello. I’ve never done this before so I apologize in advance. I’m a 20-something year old femme in college. I belong to a sorority, and one of the major catch 22s about the south, [...]
Betrayed By Bisexuals?
Sasha, I’ve always hated labels and felt that people should love whoever without having to explain or defend their choices. When Chasing Amy came out (many years ago) I actually understood her and even though I know I would never sleep with a man I feel that if you fall in love with one no [...]
Lesbian Bipolar Quiz
OK, so I lied. The quiz isn’t specifically for lesbians. But a lesbian wrote to me asking about this and most likely lesbians will read this. I don’t think there is actually a quiz specifically for lesbians with bipolar disorder, but we can pretend for the hell of it. Because really, wouldn’t it be nice [...]
Chapter 1: She’s just not that gay!
One question I keep hearing over and over again is, “How do I know if she likes me?” I hear this question at least once a week if not more and one particular friend suggested I write a blog on how to tell if she’s just not that into you? I thought that was a [...]
Dear Sasha Advice Column
As CCL grows in popularity, I keep getting more and more emails from readers asking for advice. While I am extremely flattered and want to answer each and everyone of you personally, I can’t get to everyone and write as much detail as I feel each and every one of you deserve. So I am [...]
A Young One Needs Our Advice
A young reader wrote to me for advice. Well actually, she wrote to us for advice. I am posting her email below. Please, any and all words of wisdom are welcomed. I’ve tried to get everything in, so you know the whole story.. I apologize for it being so long! So, basically, I’m 16, and [...]
Chivalry is not dead, but is it unwanted?
As a perfect compliment to my last blog about aggressive femmes, I recently received an email from a butch reader. Dear Sasha, What is up with femmes getting mad at me for opening doors for them?! I’m just trying to be nice and show I respect them. Why am I getting yelled at for it? [...]
First gay girl love
Like any good gay person, I’m a huge Glee fan. Not just because of their catchy musical numbers but also because they tackle some issues close to my gay heart, such as homophobic bullying and unrequited, first lesbian love. Santana, played by Naya Rivera is the show’s resident lesbian, madly in love with her striaght-ish, [...]
Finding your inner bad ass ;)
An anonymous reader recently asked me for some advice on how to be confident in the face of my personal obstacles. That being a bipolar lesbian with an unorthodox view on world religions and politics. (I’m putting it into my own words.) I thought this deserved it’s own blog as a response to her because [...]