By Guest Butch, Raye At first I was going to put this as a comment but it ended up being too long because this is a subject near and dear to my heart. Sorry I am late to respond… I am sick in bed with some gawd awful stomach bug and have been for a [...]
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A Young Butch
I just read a comment from a young reader and she asks for some advice on figuring out if she’s butch or not. As you all know, this is not a simple “Yes or No” answer. So I decided to dedicate an entire post to it. This way, in addition to me being able to [...]
Mixed Messages & Gym Buddies
OK, sooooooo ….. a very loyal reader and commenter …. who shall remain nameless, unless she wants to out herself (please feel free to in the comments section) recently left a comment. This comment told us that a straight friend, whom she has a crush on and they have a flirtatious type of friendship going [...]
A response for Martini-gurl
You know I love it when any of CCL’s Guest Butches chime in . Well here’s a response from Guest Butch Raye. Hey Martini-gurl, I decided to form this response to Sasha’s straight girl blog as a full on blog for two reasons: First I knew it would be long winded, therefore did not need [...]
Straight Women Falling for Lesbians
What’s on tap for today? Well first order of business is a pressing matter that several readers have written to me about. Straight women falling for gay women. It goes a little like this: Straight woman, married with children meets and falls head over heels for a lesbian. Straighty leaves her hetero life for her [...]
Dear Ignorant Dork
I received this comment on an old blog about Horny Straight Men in Lesbian Bars and I thought I would address it here, so that anyone else who might have some helpful advice could charm in as well. He wrote: I’m a straight guy going on a date with a straight girl to a gay [...]
Late Life Lesbians May Not Have Always Been Gay!
Another great article I found and had to share. I thought this was interesting because I didn’t know I was gay until I fell in love with a particular girl at 24. But now, I’m SOOOOOO gay, I wonder how I didn’t realize it sooner. I’ve been attributing my late bloomingness to the fact that [...]
Advice Needed for Anonymous TR250
“I have been in a abusive relationship for almost two years now and I don’t mean physically either. In this case it was the Femme abusing the Butch mentally. The signs were always there from the first day I met this woman but I chose to ignore them. I recently worked up the courage to [...]
Not “Technically” Single Butchie Seeks Perspective
I just want to make it clear, since there have been many times, that even close friends of mine have not noticed the byline saying that a particular article was not written by me, Sasha The following post is by my dear friend and one of CCL’s guest writers, Raye. Written by Guest Butch, Raye [...]
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Abusive Lesbians
Please tell me why so many women, straight and gay put up with abusive relationships? I get emails every week from women in terrible relationships. All sorts, femmes getting abused by their butches, butches taking verbal and physical hits from their femmes and butchies in love with other butchies that hurt them. WTF is wrong [...]
Rules for Chasing Straight Women
Written by Guest Butch, Raye A couple of years ago my friend Stacey (queen of the straight chick rodeo) blogged these rules for lesbians who chase after straight women. I thought they needed a re-up. It’s great info and quite insightful. Enjoy. Rule #1: If you’re her friend (and want to stay that way) or [...]
Some Advice Please
I recently received an email from a reader asking for some advice and wondering if any of her fellow readers were dealing with some of the same issues. Her dilemma has to do with not fitting into any particular label within the lesbian community, not really knowing where to fit in or where to go [...]
One night stands make you straight?
Sasha, help me I need your advice. I thought I was gay. I know i’m gay but recently I got drunk and slept with a guy friend of mine. Does this mean I’m bi or straight?? Dear Confused, Don’t beat yourself up over it. It happens, it even happened to me… errr … well almost. [...]
How To Be a Lesbian
Alright, so if you’ll look over in the right hand column down to recent comments, you’ll see a few new comments on When you realize you’re a lesbian and I thought I better write something on this. Of course this is a complicated, personal issue fraught with personal baggage, religious guilt, fear of family judgment [...]