I originally found this on Butch Sightings. I was immediately in lust with the super sexy butch in the video. So much so, I cyber stalked her and asked her for an interview on Facebook. She never got back to me. So this is my unrequited way of loving her from afar. For anyone [...]
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Stupid Questions Men Ask
By Guest Writer, Effi Mai If you’re a lesbian, why do you fancy people who look like men? This is a question I have had countless of times. And it’s probably more insulting than any of the other questions you might get. And with all the ‘Have you not had a proper man?’ and ‘Can [...]
Long Hair & Butches
By Guest Writer, DDK Now for a topic very near and dear to my heart, well it can be annoyance really. The stigma of butches must have short hair. I don’t agree with that at all but oddly enough its what most people I talk to see as being one of the hall marks of [...]
Advice for a Femme with a Butch Problem
Hi Sasha, I’ve recently become addicted to your blog, especially all the butch/femme threads. I’m in Australia and haven’t really had all that much exposure to the Butch/Femme dynamic and am becoming fascinated by it. I’m trying to work out where I sit in the spectrum. I know labels aren’t for everyone but I really [...]
I Apologize to Butches Everywhere
Ok, so this post is basically me saying I’m sorry for a post that I wrote 4 years ago. The post was “Butch/Femme Relationships versus Lesbian Relationships” and for those of you that didn’t read it …. Its at the bottom of this post. Because I’ve taken it down from the main site. Within the [...]
The Good Wife
So there is this website I ran across and fell in love with. It’s called the The Feminist eZine. It’s chocked full of articles pertaining to feminism, both historically and currently. It brought me back to my old college days of hanging out with all my women’s study friends and wondering why none of them [...]
Advanced Tips for Femmes
By guest blogger, Raye Many butches are not used to someone wanting them. It throws them off. You femmes don’t realize how rare a butch-loving femme really is. All you see is that you can’t find any butches and you notice all the femmes in competition with you for one. Oddly enough this is [...]
How To Flirt with a Butchie
By Guest Butch, Raye I have always hated dating. Even when I was newly out and in my twenties, I liked the attention I got from women but I was terrified to ask women out. I think it stems from the fact that when I did get bold enough (or drunk enough) to hit on [...]
A Butch Voice From Another Generation
I recently had a brief email encounter with a reader that almost made me cry. It all started with a simple misunderstanding when she read an old blog of mine. It was one of those old blogs from when I was dating a stone butch, who wouldn’t “allow” me to touch her below the shoulders. [...]
The Butch/Femme Tango
A new reader recently commented on an old blog, Butch/femme relationships versus lesbian relationships. I had to go back and reread it because it was written back in 2008 and my oh my how things have changed in my life since then!!! A lot of things I wrote then are not how I feel today [...]
Butch Voices LA 2010: Butch Fest!
Apparently my love for all things butch has gotten around. *Thank God!* And Butch Voices LA recently sent me an email about the following, upcoming events. This looks really cool and I’m about 100% sure there are going to be some smokin’ hot butches there, so any single femmes …. you might want to head [...]
A Femme’s Take on Chivalry: Part 1
LB_Boi and Raye have recently blogged about chivalry from a butches/bois perspective and I thought it was high time that I chimed in from a femme perspective. When I read LB_Boi’s article, it made me smile and totally reminded me of everything I’ve ever heard Remi say. Then today I read Raye’s and just had [...]
Politcally Incorrect But Honest
A recent text conversation between me and a friend. Friend: I hate PC bullshit & lesbians are the worst. God I love femmes who own that shit! Me: Haha! I know what you mean! I love being taken care of. If I wanted to be the bread winner again, I’d go back to dating girls [...]
The 3 B’s of yesterday – part 2
The guy I thought I had ditched and by now had convinced myself was never even looking at me was sitting behind me on a chair, checking my ass out as I looked for lesbian erotica. Fantastic. To think, a few moments before he made his presence known, I was mentally berating myself for being [...]
Bookstores, Black Guys & Butches
In preparation of Remi’s big night out with the guys, I took myself out today. On a date. Sort of. Well I have this wicked sore throat and trying to be a good friend, have been keeping my cooties far away from Lana. Which means that when Remi’s at work, I’m flying solo on any [...]