As CCL grows in popularity, I keep getting more and more emails from readers asking for advice. While I am extremely flattered and want to answer each and everyone of you personally, I can’t get to everyone and write as much detail as I feel each and every one of you deserve.
So I am going to start implementing a few guidelines. So listen up people.
As always, please feel free to email me asking for advice. But since there is getting to be too many for me to handle on my own, I’m going to start posting some of them on CCL. This way you don’t just get my take on things, but you get feedback from the entire CCL family!
If your email doesn’t make it onto CCL then be patient and I will try my best to get back to you personally.
Also, if you wrote to me and I didn’t get back to you, ever. Please resend the email because it’s possible it got lost in the spam folder, or just lost in the shuffle.
I try my best to write back to everyone, but if I did that every single day that would be a full time job in itself! So I’m going to try this and see how it works.
Also take note of the “Advice” category at the top of the page. That’s where I will be putting all of these drama-filled, juicy emails and advice from now on. 
One last thing, I’m really back logged on emails so forgive me!!! I’m trying to catch up.
Oh one more thing to keep in mind, is that when writing to me, please leave out any identifying names or details if you wish to remain anonymous. Just use fake names, it’s fun!
Peace, Light and Lesbian Love!
This is Sasha signing off for the day
good idea, Sasha
YOU’RE AWESOME, LIKE THAT!!
Haha, yeah! This should help you out a lot and I don’t blame you- if it’s like a full time job, you should get paid as an advice columnist at least. When it’s not and it’s all heart on your end, we can help a sista out.
I like this idea!
Great idea!
hi guys its been a while since i have written here well i need advice on some things….well how do i start people are beginning to find out that i am a lesbian and while some accept it some people comments really crush me to the very core someone told me that being lesbian is very very wrong and god made a man for a woman and a woman for a man and going against that is an insult to god himself and that i am possessed by a lesbian demon that wants to drag me down to hell and that i should start lusting towards men and have sex with them even though i don’t want to i should cause that is what god wants me to do i don’t know what to do but i don’t want to ever have sex with men i love women and i know this i’m so depressed about this cause i don’t want to live my life in a lie i would rather die than to marry a man and live a a whole big lie please can you help me i don’t know who else to ask and where to turn but here
Young Butch, don’t live a lie. I believe that anyone who truly loves and cares for you (in this case, your deity) would want you to reach your most fulfilled self. This can only be achieved by honoring who you are, not who you think you should be.
i agree with elegy. one thing i remember from the church we used to go to was that God knew who you are before you did.
it looks like your religious friends and families are harping you due to their own interpretation or what has been taught to them from the Bible. my suggestion to you is this. LISTEN TO THEM. and go study what it is they are trying to say to you. the Bible is a tool for believers in God. all tools get used the wrong way depending on who is operating it. pray to God when searching for these answers. these people that are trying to tear you down need to be educated as well.
you can have long winded religious debates and educate each other. know that God WILL be standing there with you. and guiding you through these tough times. i cannot begin to relate the troubles you are facing. but, i imagine it is unbearable. trust in God. HE loved you first and He will love you till the end.
people are human and make mistakes over and over. sometimes they come around and sometimes you just hope that they will one day open their hearts.
i’m so sorry you’re having to endure this. i think the religious attacks are the most hurtful for the LGBT community. not only does it conflict with you as a person. but, it also affects your own spiritual faith. it’s like a double sucker punch.
Young Butch- The advice of Elegy and Sarah M is excellent please take it to heart. I add the advice/wisdom that your life IS ABSOLUTELY worth living. YOU are covered with the SAME fingerprints of God that these people are who have told you such judgmental things about lesbians. Sincerely I am scared for you because if I remember correctly u mentioned suicide in a previous/old post comment section. Please be strong. It sucks. I understand. In the end YOU must stand within your own shoes, walk your own path and be your own biggest advocate. Sending u well wishes and thoughts of strength. Jaz
thanks alot guys it makes me feel so much better that there is someone one out there that understands me and who i am inside i avoid going certain places that i know that i would bump into these people i got to stop stressing about what other people think about me and live my life thanks again!
Sasha I am curious what ever happens after they receive our advice? Do they ever reply after and give updates? You have helped countless people on CCL and I often wonder what ever happened to them. The one that sticks out the most was the lesbian couple in serious need with their children and crazy x husband. Any news?