Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

School Cancels Prom due to Lesbian

Posted on 13. Mar, 2010 by Sasha.

I’m sure a lot of you have heard about the lesbian teen, Constance McMillen in Mississippi who’s school actually canceled her senior prom, rather then let her attend it with her girlfriend.

She was told by the assistant principle and the superintendent “that they would not be allowed to arrive together, that she would not be allowed to wear a tuxedo to prom, and that she and her girlfriend might be thrown out if their presence made any other students “uncomfortable”

Of course the ACLU has her back and is now suing the Mississippi school district to reinstate the  April 2 prom.

Not only is this young girl having to deal with the school district, she’s also having to deal with harassment from fellow school mates that blame her for ruining their senior prom.

Good luck Constance. We’re all pulling for you. And even if you don’t get the prom of your dreams just remember, you’re already part of history in the making and we’re proud of you for standing up for yourself.

Plus after you graduate you might wanna think about getting your gay ass out of the Bible Belt and into some friendlier area, like Los Angeles!

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Shmirshky: You Love them, You have them.

Posted on 06. Mar, 2010 by Sasha.

I just finished reading Shmirshky by E. Which is a cleverly written, glib look into what we all have to look forward to ladies. Menopause. Now normally I might not pick up a book like this, mostly out of ego. I like to tell myself that I am eternally youthful and try not to worry my pretty little head over far-off health issues. But let’s face it, we’re all going to go through it.

The only difference is that some of us will go through it uninformed, angry, scared and if you’re anything like my mother, you’ll go through it a raving lunatic.

Or you could be smart about the inevitable and when the time comes, you could be prepared, informed and ready. Enter Shmirshky. (more…)

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Debut Vlog Topic: Coming Soon

Posted on 05. Mar, 2010 by Sasha.

This is just a quick note really.

I’ve gotten a few comments lately from readers that are asking my advice on relationships, how to know if they’re gay, what’s up with Tony and whether or not Remi and I are going to have a “temporarily open relationship” for Dinah Shore.

Well here’s the deal, I could write about it and probably will anyways. But Remi bought me that nifty little camcorder so I could start doing vlogs. The only reason I haven’t yet is, well to be honest I’m nervous! I’m used to writing, safe behind my keyboard and screen in my pajamas and glasses. But if I vlog, you’re all going to see what I look like! And contrary to some comments that accuse me of being a self-absorbed girl that thinks I’m the sh!% … I am not. I’m actually pretty insecure about my looks, as I’m sure a lot of women are.

But I’m going to tell myself that most of my readers don’t really give a crap about what I look like, throw caution to the wind and just do it … eventually. LOL … no really, expect my first video blog the end of this weekend … I hope.

My other reason for not having posted a video blog yet is that I wasn’t sure what to talk about! But I think I’ll address some of the recent comments pleading for some advice.

These will be some of the first comments I address. So if you’re one of the girls that left them, be sure to check back for a video response to your comment. Ha, don’t you feel special? Well you should always feel special, even if someone isn’t putting their insecurities on the back burner to make a vlog for you.

lovergirl wrote:

I have a boyfriend. This girl hits on me at the gym… It’s unlike any way i’ve ever been approached. I don’t think I like girls. I like her though. I really hope it’s no just me liking attention. I wouldn’t want to hurt her by my selfishness. She has pretty hair, and the way she looks at me makes me nervous…..
I’m 22. Femme, but athletic.?I like her. (more…)

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Tony & Willa: Part 4

Posted on 01. Mar, 2010 by Sasha.

Once again, Willa had managed to not surprise me by her shabby treatment of Tony.

Tony attempted contact with Willa repeatedly over the next 24 hours. It wasn’t until Willa was good and ready (and probably done fucking whoever she was with) did she bother to return Tony’s calls.

I’m not privy to exactly was said between the two, all I know is that in no time at all Willa was back at Tony’s place, securely ensconced in her role as “Trophy girlfriend.” Tony was still paying her lawyer bills for the divorce and everything seemed to settle back into their fucked up little arrangement.

Until Willa went out for another “night out with the girls” not to return till the next morning, disheveled, panty-less and hung-over. At this point Tony had had enough and lit into Willa. Or so she tells me. But whatever she said got Willa to spill the beans as to where she’d been sneaking off to all these times.

Anyone want to hazard a guess??? Yep, you’ve guessed it. Her husband!!

That hoe bag was crawling back into bed with her so-called “emotionally abusive” husband that Tony was paying for  her to get a divorce from.

Whoa. Can anyone else feel the hit to the gut Tony must have experienced at the moment of impact? Apparently the revelation was so shocking and upsetting to Tony she threw up a few minutes after finding out. I know I’ve been that upset before and I know if it gets to the point of tossing your cookies over the fucked up shit your girlfriend is doing to you, it’s time to leave. (more…)

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My Wife, Ellen

Posted on 28. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

I keep having a recurring dream, that it’s the 1920’s and I’m one of the first women in college somewhere here in L.A. But then after class I’m walking out to the street where my wife, Ellen is picking me up in her convertible, 1920 something Rolls Royce!

Basically, I love Ellen and if she weren’t already married and I was single, I would totally hold out hopes for running into her some day. Hey, everyone has a celebrity dream-lover and now you know mine.

So when Remi showed me this video of my wife on You Tube, I had to share.

I’m sure most of you have already seen it, but I don’t have TV anymore so I’m always the last to see anything.

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Domestic Partnership Tax Breaks?

Posted on 27. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

Ughhh …. I hesitate to even broach this subject on my blog for fear of what Remi might think, fear of what others may think is my “real” motive, fear of how I may come across on this topic and just overall uneasiness discussing this topic. Because #1) I tend to vacillate on it by the moment. #2) I can play devil’s advocate better then the horned dude himself and just basically confuse the hell out of myself and #3) I don’t want to sound like some woman trying to “trick” her partner into marriage.

Having laid out all those disclaimers, I say fuckit ….. here’s what’s on my mind right now.

Taxes are coming up. Remi and I are living together, sharing a house, all bills, cars and oh, did I tell you? We just opened up a joint bank account and I am officially in charge of all the bill paying. When I told Lana this, she just looked at me and said, “Duhhhh … you are the wife! That’s what wives do.” Then continued to choke me, since we were in krav class at the time.

Wife? Am not! (more…)

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Tony & Willa: Part 3 … ugh

Posted on 25. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

I just got off the phone with Tony, who understandably is a bit shaken over the comments. But I warned her that you guys were going to be brutally honest with her. Which is exactly what she needs. With her renewed permission to continue telling you her story, here we go again …..

I think Tony was avoiding me for a few days, because I didn’t hear from her for more then a week. When I finally did get a call, it was to tell me that yes, she did indeed get Willa a Mercedes. But I was not to jump down her throat before I heard her out. Here is her lame defense, “Well I didn’t buy her a car. I simply traded in the Caddy for a Mercedes and I’m letting her drive it. It’s still in my name so it’s not like she can just drive off with it.”

Uh huh. OK, I guess this was better then buying her a $50,000 ring that she could turn around and pawn. But still, it was pretty freakin’ early in the relationship to be taking on a ginormous car loan for someone. But whatever.

It seemed like everything was going pretty smoothly for them and I actually let myself hope that maybe, just maybe Willa wasn’t all bad. The divorce seemed to be going through. Tony was happy. Willa was pampered. All was right in the world.

Until late one Saturday night, a little after midnight my phone rang and it was a very upset Tony. Willa hadn’t been home since Friday afternoon. She wasn’t answering her cell phone and she couldn’t find her anywhere. Poor Tony had even called all the hospitals to see if there had been an accident. (more…)

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Tony & Willa: Part 2

Posted on 23. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

So we’re back to Tony and Willa. Last you heard, Tony had just found out that Willa was bisexual and still married to her husband! But instead of kicking her hot ass out of bed, she goes and pays for a divorce lawyer. Great move.

What could possibly come next, you might wonder? Well hold on to your seats ladies, because it’s about to get really bumpy for our friend Tony here ….

It wasn’t more then a few weeks into living together, before Willa came to Tony asking for a new car. Now Tony is a rather successful woman and already had two very nice cars in the garage. Her BMW SUV and Cadillac CTS that she rarely ever used. Common sense would have thrown up a giant red flag that read “Gold digger!” But apparently the only red thing she saw waving in the air were Willa’s panties.

As horny as any red blooded lesbian might be under similar circumstances, reason would have still said, “Well sure honey. Why don’t you tool around town in the Caddy?”

I don’t think anyone would have said that was less then generous on Tony’s part. But no, that wasn’t good enough. Why would Willa want a  second hand Caddy (2009 BTW) when she figured Tony had the means of getting her into a Mercedes?

Yep, I can hear the collective groans now as you all read this …. “N o!  D o n  ’t  d o  i t!” – as we all yell in slow motion, unable to stop the inevitable collision of Tony’s heart and wallet against the cold hard concrete we’re all too sure Willa will eventually smash it into.

But like the true gentlemen that she is, she took her to the car dealership later that week. But not before calling me and having this little conversation:

Tony: “Hey Sasha, you used to be in the jewelry business right?” (more…)

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Is Tony Getting Taken for a Fool?

Posted on 21. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

Would you be a fool for a woman like this?

One of my good friends is going through some pretty serious lesbian drama. I wouldn’t be blogging about it, if she hadn’t given me permission. That’s how serious it is. Let me fill you in a little ….

For her privacy and the purpose of this blog, we’ll be calling my friend, Tony.

Tony is someone that I dated briefly about 8 years ago. She was more of my knight in shining armor whenever I got screwed over by my current love affair. She was the one I would call and she always came running. Ready and willing to take me in for the night, or weekend.

But I was an idiot back then and didn’t fully appreciate what a good catch she was. Years later, we’ve grown into good friends, sans the rebound sex. So while I’m now in a committed relationship, I can look at Tony objectively and see that she deserves to be happy with a good woman. If only life were that easy.

Remember how I mentioned Tony’s penchant for playing the hero, coming to the rescue of any helpless femme?? While that may be one of her best qualities, it’s also her biggest weakness.

Enter Willa. I’ll call her Willa because she could be Willa Ford’s twin sister. Tony met Willa about 4 months ago. It was a whirlwind romance. Before two weeks were up, they were living together. Both very successful women in their chosen fields. It seemed too perfect to be true …. and so it was. (more…)

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Lezzy Awards & MINI’s!!! Oh my!!!

Posted on 19. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

OK so I think it’s safe to say that the storm clouds of bad luck have lifted from my life and I seem to be a new roll … a good one!

First piece of AWESOMENESS is that Card Carrying Lesbian has been nominated, again this year for Best Lesbian Personal Blog!!!! Last year I think I was in the best new lesbian blog. I didn’t win last year, but the cliche saying, “It’s an honor just to be nominated” is so true!

So please don’t be shy, vote for me!

(Apparently you will be sent a confirmation email that you must click in order for your vote to be counted.)

OK, now for the second piece of AWESOMENESS ….. drum roll puhleeeeeeez ……..
I got a brand new MINI Cooper!!!!

Yep, that’s right. I officially have the most amazing, perfect, generous, wonderful girlfriend in the entire world! Remi and I bought our new baby, that we have named Belmont at Long Beach Mini this last Wednesday.

It’s a 2010 Mini Cooper S Clubman and I am truly in love with my new car! But even more in love with Remi then ever. Not just because she bought us a new car, but because it was a really big step to buy something this big! Which says a lot about how she feels about our future together. Basically, this just renewed and confirmed our commitment to each other. Nothing says you’re serious about someone like buying them a new car.

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Can I get a Ride?

Posted on 05. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

As I mentioned, my best friend Lana is the proud new owner of this beautiful little baby:

Let me just say how proud I am of her! She’s not even 30 yet and she’s totally rockin’ the independent female thing. She didn’t need a man (she’s straight) to get her cute little ass in a sweet ride like this. Nope. She just made it happen all on her own and she’s my hero for the month.

Now if I could just get myself a new little Mini Cooper …..

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A Comma As A Sign of Life

Posted on 05. Feb, 2010 by Sasha.

Dear Cram,

In response to your comment, “You could just type one lil itty bitty comma to signal your aliveness.” I apologize for the lack of recent commas. I am indeed, still alive.

But where oh where have I been? Drowning in the mire of my own thoughts yet somehow, completely dry of any and all things to blog about.

After a nasty little bout of pancreatitis or something posing as a very good impostor I had about a day or two of health and what some may call happiness. But alas, I was struck down by the swine flu! Hahaha … no, seriously. While I did not call CDC, I did check my death defying symptoms against a checklist I found online and was promptly self-diagnosed as having the dreaded H1N1.

Of course I immediately sent a text to my best friend, Lana to tell her the news. But instead of being surprised she informed me that was probably what she had the week before! Umm, thanks for inviting me over all last week! LOL … but what good are friends if you can’t share a little pandemic? In all honesty I think I got it from my father. But don’t tell Lana, I’d rather try to milk a little guilt out of the girl, since she’s the proud new owner of an absolutely gorgeous Porsche and I’m trying to talk her into letting me borrow it for Dinah Shore.

Dinah Shore?! Can anyone say crash diet? I have 54 days exactly to be bikini ready. Let the count down begin.

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She Is Super!

Posted on 28. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

You all know my love for belly dancing and when I’m sad or bored I tend to search YouTube for inspirational dancers to watch. Last night I found SuperKate. I love her! She made me laugh and I wanted to share it with you. So here, if you want to smile watch her.

Daisy Chain of Depression

Posted on 27. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

I’m in a funk … and I mean a major, sucky funk. As I’m sure you’ve noticed by my lack of posting anything for a while now. While I don’t want to sound all complainy I will allow myself to explain the recent chain of events that my girlfriend pointed out to me last night as to the probable trigger for my emotional downward spiral:

About a month ago I re-injured my neck which kept me out of the gym, which as we all know seems to be the one and only thing that keeps my moods on the up and up. Then just as I was recovering from that whole thing, I came down with a wretched attack of pancreatitis. Which if you don’t know, leaves you doubled over in pain, breaking out in cold sweats and fevers, while not allowing you to eat hardly anything at all. Then to top it off, it’s coming up to that fun time of the month that tends to make me especially weepy and cry at the drop of a hat.

Basically this has been a very poopy month and not really given me much to write about. But I’m hoping all of this will pass soon although while in the grips of it, it seems endless and bordering on hopeless.

So there. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

PS: By daisy chain I wasn’t referring to the dirty fun, porno kind of daisy chain … but used instead in the context of linking one event to another.

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k.d. lang should have been a clue

Posted on 14. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

When I saw this particular performance on television, I was twelve years old. I turned to my mother and said, “Oh she’s sooooooo beautiful! I love her!”

To which my mother shook her head in disbelief and said, “Beautiful!? I don’t think so, honey. But she does have a beautiful voice.”

I dropped the topic but instantly had a secret crush on this masculine woman with a gorgeous voice. Tonight I introduced her music to my 65 year old father who now also shares the same opinion as I do. She’s beautiful. Whether you think it’s her voice or everything about her … sit back and enjoy.

Milla Jovovich Should Go Gay

Posted on 04. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

I fell in love with Milla Jovovich when I was 14 years old and she starred in Return to the Blue Lagoon.

I’ve since fallen for her in almost every movie she’s ever done, except for The Fifth Element.

Her look ranges from ultra femme to downright dykey. Of course, given my penchant for lesbians, I prefer her with short hair.

What got me on my little Milla rant? I just watched Joan of Arc for the first time tonight and found her inexplicably hot after she chopped off all her hair, riding around on a horse in armor. You know me, always a sucker for a knight in shining armor.

Then as if her hotness wasn’t enough, I once saw her barking a song out on The Carson Daly Show. Be still my beating heart: a hot chick with a weird/dorky sense of humor. Hmmmm hmmmm ….. I’ll take that.

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Friendship and BPD

Posted on 03. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

Life doesn’t stop for your problems. Life doesn’t even slow down. You’re on the highway of life, barreling down the road at 100 miles an hour and when a bipolar episode hits …. it’s like wham! Crashing into the guardrail at full speed, without a seat belt on.

But instead of shattering glass and the sound of crunching metal, the sounds you hear are your friendships falling apart, your career disintegrating and your life falling down around you. If you’re really really lucky, the one thing you don’t lose is your understanding girlfriend. Because she’s the one and only thing you were able to get the seatbelt around right before you crashed.

I keep getting emails from other lesbians who are in relationships with women who have depression or BPD, or they have it themselves. They keep asking me how I deal with it? How does Remi deal with it? What’s my advice?

I’m no expert. I’m just like them. Stumbling through life with BPD trying to make the best of it on the days I can, and trying not to do anything irreversible on the days I can’t.

I’ve been congratulated for coming out publicly about my BPD. Which is nice and all, but it was either that or just let  the world keep thinking I’m a flake. Which I am, but there’s a reason for it. A lot of people with BPD also have a few other issues to deal with: some may be diagnosed as Borderline, or OCD, or ADD …. you get the idea. Myself? Well for whatever reason I tend to be a bit agoraphobic. I get into these funks where I can’t leave my house for weeks at a time. Which as you can imagine has a negative effect on my social life.

One of the hardest aspects of this whole thing, is maintaining friendships. Because seriously, who would want to be friends with a girl who can’t even go out and get the mail sometimes? It’s not that I don’t want to go out. It’s that when I get to the door, an overwhelming sense of panic and paranoia come up and I feel like I’m going to die. Most of the time, simply making plans about going out will have the same affect. I know, loads of fun. And just for added kicks and giggles, this anxiety extends to talking on the phone. I hate it. I don’t even like talking to Remi on the phone. I’ll text till my fingers fall off, but I absolutely abhor talking on the phone.

Thank God I’m not always like this. But when I’m not, I try to make up for all the lost time. I go out A LOT. Party A LOT. Work out A LOT. Shop A LOT. Socialize A LOT. Have sex A LOT. Life in a manic or hypo-manic stage can be awesome. (Not counting the aftermath.) But it never lasts, and it definitely doesn’t last long enough.

When that high fades, I do to. I fade out of sight and withdraw from the outside world. Completely.

It’s not hard to imagine that friendships have been tested over that. But that’s also why the friends that I do have, I would do anything for and have.

Because of a recent comment from someone that said, “I do know how hard this friend of yours has tried and how much effort she has put into your friendship. Which, though I don’t know you THAT well, I do know that is quite the task and takes a lot of effort with someone like yourself.”

Someone like yourself. I hate to admit it, but that sentence reverberated with me to the bone and kept replaying itself in my head for the next few days. Somehow, all my insecurities and self-loathing over BPD was confirmed in that one sentence. What I heard, was that all those times I’ve thought that I wasn’t worth the air I breathe, or that I was nothing more then a burden to my girlfriend or my family, or that I was a bad person because I couldn’t control this thing and it controlled me … that all those things were the truth. (more…)

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Sophia Loren Made Me Gay

Posted on 02. Nov, 2009 by Sasha.

The Original: Sophia Loren

Not Sophia, but pretty close.

I should have known I was a lesbian, when at 5 years of age I declared I was in love with Sophia Loren. I convinced myself (and my mother) that I simply idolized her and wanted to grow up to be like her, not be with her.

But I’m all grown up now, and while Sophia Loren is still a Goddess, even at her age. There is a new beauty on the scene that is more then a little reminiscent of my first love.

As beautiful as the Guess model is (sorry, I couldn’t find her name anywhere) … there’s still something about the original that can never be duplicated.

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Happy Halloween!!!!

Posted on 31. Oct, 2009 by Sasha.

So we kicked off All Hallows Eve at my friend Anna’s house party. Which was AMAZING!!!

But tonight we’re headed out to the West Hollywood Halloween Costume Carnaval, to roam the streets of Hollyweird with all the other freaks of the night …. I can’t wait!

Before we start getting ready for the evening, Remi carved our pumpkins. After I saw her masterpiece, I made her do mine too. Take a look! Remi’s is the skull and mine is the cute face.

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Lesbian Vampire Needs Your Advice

Posted on 29. Oct, 2009 by Sasha.

So it’s almost Halloween and I’ve been sewing all week! Next year, please remind me to start this whole process in August. I always underestimate how long these things take. I have a tendency to do that …. like with my house: Oh the floors will only take 3 days. I can knock that kitchen out in 24 hours! I can fix both costumes in an afternoon, no sweat! … Would someone please shake me next time I so loudly proclaim the impossible is possible.

So while we’re still working on the lining to Remi’s trench coat today, my costume is complete. But now I need some outside opinions here.

Here are two photos of the hair, makeup and contacts that makeup part of my Hallow’s eve look. But should I wear my hair up or down? I’m thinking up because it shows the neckline of the robe off and I think it looks more dramatic with that makeup. But I’ve had several guy friends of mine insist I should wear it down.

Ugh …. so please let me know what you think looks best. Up or down??

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