Comments on: Activating your Gaydar

By: M girl

M girl — Mon, 30 May 2011 18:02:57 +0000

I’m gonna try it.

By: akabrutuslol

akabrutuslol — Sat, 21 May 2011 15:19:49 +0000

Mmmmmm hmmmmm! Good advice, it works. Eye to eye contact with her. Then I have to peek else where, letting her see me do this, right back to the eyes of course, (not to long peeking). And then from behind while she walks away …. AWWWWW her curves from behind!…. She’ll turn to see if you are still watching trust that. OMG – THAT eye contact is the best!

By: um what?

um what? — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 09:56:27 +0000

um… ‘breeder’?

sasha i love your blog, i’ve followed it for ages. i did not expect this sort of language from you.

and yes, i am single and heterosexual.

By: Femmelover

Femmelover — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 05:37:38 +0000

Lesbian Girl and R -

It has been months since this chat but, I couldn’t agree more with the two of you! I have been bombarded at my work with seemingly straight looking, beautiful women(wearing rings on the ring finger)who look at me like I was putting off some sort of vibe that they want to decifer and cannot ignore. DUDES – you know how you can feel someone staring at you? And, from a butch point of view, the feeling is super sexual…like they’re just so damn curious about you and want to try you out?
I recently had two beautiful femmes sitting right in front of me at the same time who acted just like this. Can you imagine how I was feeling? Yea, baby! I luv my job!

However, right now, I’m just looking for that one special lady.

By: jacki

jacki — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 22:40:11 +0000

wonderful advice- Can’t wait to try it!

By: ellebee

ellebee — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 07:42:16 +0000

Lesbian Girl! I am going to try this as well, but I want to be an object of desire!

By: red red

red red — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 19:17:42 +0000

yeah, that’s right… lmao no unicorns, no straight girls. I totally agree.

p.s.: i’m new around. just discovered this hard-core blog. hello to everybody

By: r

Sun, 27 Dec 2009 21:12:20 +0000

A straight girl is like a unicorn: mythical creature I’ve heard of but never actually seen. Every alleged straight girl I’ve ever met was either A. one bad boyfriend away from coming on to me B. one glass one wine away from coming on to me C. both A and B.

I’m going to burst some bubbles but it has to be said:

THERE ARE NO UNICORNS AND THERE NO STRAIGHT GIRLS. Myths, they are both myths.

By: Lesbian Girl

Lesbian Girl — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 18:21:07 +0000

“…a lot of girls I’ve known have apparently had the stalker gene” — Too funny. Can totally relate to what you are saying. And the part about her looking at your lips and then your eyes. I always look for that! Typically a full-proof way to know if she wants you. I usually let her do it a few times before I get closer to the object of my desire

By: Sasha

Sasha — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:38:18 +0000

Dear Tara, here’s the old “is she or isn’t she?” safest way ever to feel her out a little more before you declare your intentions: Ask her out for coffee. If she accepts then you’re on the right track. Once you two are alone and away from dance class steer the topic of convo around to whether or not she’s dating anyone and go from there.

Good luck!

Let us know how it goes.

By: Tara

Tara — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 22:42:21 +0000

You do help… But there’s this girl who tries to teach me to dance… I signed up for these classes and she’s very nice and all… But my gaydar is stupid and I don’t know if she is or not… She hasn’t done much out of the ordinary but I really wanna ask her out… (I can’t unless I’m sure cuz of where I live and blah blah blah)
Any suggestions???

By: mizz t. casa

*mizz t. casa* — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 00:51:15 +0000

wow. this is great advice. i def had an oprah ”a’ha!” moment. most heteros assume that everyone else is str8. why shouldn’t we assume that everyone else is queer. luv ur thinking sasha. the world seems a better place already.

*mizz t. casa*

By: DB

DB — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:28:15 +0000

Yo Sash, excellent post. I’m butch, soft butch but I still can’t ever tell if a femme is gay or just straight. I tried what you said ever since i read it and I actually ended up having some girl I’ve known for a long time ask me out for coffee. I never thought she was gay before but she is. thanks for the heads up. I’ll be reading in the future for some more pimp moves.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:25:31 +0000

My friends from work turned me on your site, we all read it from one computer during our coffee break. I think this is the funniest blog you’ve written in a while. Now I’m going to assume that my boss lady is a sister and see what happens. Maybe I’ll get lucks and she’ll sexually harass me.

By: BritishLuv

BritishLuv — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:24:11 +0000

Sasha this is bloody brilliant! I love your writing!!!

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 23:23:01 +0000

OMG Sasha, I thought about what you said and thought that maybe my teacher really might be gay. So I went to her office to ask her for “advice” about whether or not she thought joining the straight and gay alliance group on campus could comeback to haunt me.

She totally lit up with this huge grin on her face and warmed up to me right away. She even said she’d go with me to my first meeting as moral support and that she should join too because it’s good when staff shows support for diversity on campus.

She didn’t say she was gay. Yet. But she’s been totally cool with me since then even offering me an extension i didn’t even ask for but totally needed.

Thanks so much Sasha! I’ll keep you posted on what happens!!!

By: Melody

Melody — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 05:29:26 +0000

I took your advice and it went WELL!!! I wrote it out for ya!

http://dare2livefree.com/sdymond/?p=47

By: Jolie

Jolie — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 16:18:28 +0000

Excellent! Put all that life experience to practical use!

I have the same approach you do; I assume family until proven otherwise just because I hate to be walled off from the world. Plus if I waited for women to approach me, I’d never have a conversation with anyone. Because of course, I don’t “look” gay.

I have seriously considered tattooing a rainbow on my forehead.

By: SuperTex

SuperTex — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 07:23:18 +0000

dude! i very much look forward to this list! LA has definitely perfected my gaydar, but i’m waaaay too shy (and clueless) to do anything when i see that cutie in the snack aisle

By: Jul

Jul — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 03:49:40 +0000

great post! I think you and I have the same gaydar, that is, just assuming almost any woman might be up for it if the situation were right.

Is that gaydar? No matter, it’s just good common sense. Love it.