Comments on: Bipolar Pitfalls

By: Saphy

Saphy — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 08:31:00 +0000

Reading this made me want to ask my girlfriend some questions about what it is like to be in a relationship with me me….fear of her answers prevents me from doing so however.

By: blueinthefaceangel

blueinthefaceangel — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:33:31 +0000

aww Remi is an awsome GF.And this really made me tear up…go girls.

By: Patrice

Patrice — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:41:09 +0000

This is a great post. Thanks for addressing this issue amongst the LGBT community. I suffer with depression, and I’m in a relationship with someone who also suffers from it. I think mental disorders is something that is not addressed enough in our community. Its good to know that we’re not alone out here. The more we put it out there, the more support we’ll have for one another. Thanks.

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By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:25:50 +0000

Thank you so much for this post.

I am head over heels in love with a woman with BPD. It can be difficult sometimes, but it is more than worth it. I have never met a person that makes me feel the way that she does and I am so grateful to have found her. So sometimes she’s down, sometimes she snaps at me, sometimes she says things just to upset me, but I know that isn’t her. I know that if she wasn’t on an out she wouldn’t be doing those things.

I felt so alone in this situation. I’m so glad that I stumbled upon your blog. It feels good to know that someone else knows how I feel and is coping with the ups and downs of a loved one like I am.

Again, thank you so much Sasha and Remi.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:24:29 +0000

Hey Sasha, I teared up reading this as well because I’m on the other side of the fence. I started university recently and this amazing girl introduced herself to me, we started dating casually and during this period she went manic. I didn’t realise what she was doing was partly because of this and was pretty much crushed when she went and slept with someone else, faked apologies and messed me around. I was so angry that I thought I’d never speak to her again, until she ended up texting me to come round after her mood crashed. She was suicidal and a complete non-functioning mess and I’ve spent the last couple of days with her flatmates and a few understanding friends keeping watch over her to make sure she doesn’t hurt herself. She was completely terrified and scared and having uncontrollable thoughts, and the crisis resolution treatment people ended up coming round with some medication (she already had this lot, just not her usual stuff that keeps her stable) and trying to persuade her not to kill herself before they could get her treatment. We live in an urban centre in the UK so it’s very hard to decide whether to hospitilise someone because there are so few beds for psychiatric problems. They have to be right on the brink and she was almost there but not bad enough for them to take her in. This was all last night- the night before I kept her in my room so I could keep an eye over her, but last night me and another bipolar friend of hers settled for standing outside her room every five minutes to make sure she was breathing and asleep still after the diazapine kicked in. I left about 1am because I was so exhausted from being up almost all of the other night listening to the state she was in at night (apparenly they’re the worst for her). She had a doctor’s appointment today that my acquaintence that was looking after her was going to take her to, but haven’t heard from anyone yet. I don’t know where she is or what’s happening or anything.

I think it’s safe to say this has been one of the most enlightening experiences of my life. I would never ever wish this illness on anyone no matter who they were. Even though this girl, who I still care about enourmously and want to see get better, stopped taking her meds, I know it wasn’t at all her fault. She was just on a high and thought she didn’t need them anymore. She’s apologised so many times and it’s obvious how scared she is. She talks about how she wants to die and it makes me terrified as well.

I really needed to get this out, so thanks for writing this blog. I have no idea what to do now, so any advice of any kind would be brilliant, since you’ve been there.

By: Martha

Martha — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 11:33:51 +0000

Thank you Remi and Sasha–for your honesty and willingness to share… I don’t know if this relationship is going to work out, but If it doesn’t, it won’t be because of her BPD. You’ve helped enormously.

By: Becca

Becca — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 02:48:59 +0000

I really do love your writing! It is always good for me to hear stuff like this because I have a tendency towards severe depression, and I can make my partner damn crazy about it. Your writing keeps me on my toes!! ((Hugs))