This is just a quick note really.
I’ve gotten a few comments lately from readers that are asking my advice on relationships, how to know if they’re gay, what’s up with Tony and whether or not Remi and I are going to have a “temporarily open relationship” for Dinah Shore.
Well here’s the deal, I could write about it and probably will anyways. But Remi bought me that nifty little camcorder so I could start doing vlogs. The only reason I haven’t yet is, well to be honest I’m nervous! I’m used to writing, safe behind my keyboard and screen in my pajamas and glasses. But if I vlog, you’re all going to see what I look like! And contrary to some comments that accuse me of being a self-absorbed girl that thinks I’m the sh!% … I am not. I’m actually pretty insecure about my looks, as I’m sure a lot of women are.
But I’m going to tell myself that most of my readers don’t really give a crap about what I look like, throw caution to the wind and just do it … eventually. LOL … no really, expect my first video blog the end of this weekend … I hope.
My other reason for not having posted a video blog yet is that I wasn’t sure what to talk about! But I think I’ll address some of the recent comments pleading for some advice.
These will be some of the first comments I address. So if you’re one of the girls that left them, be sure to check back for a video response to your comment. Ha, don’t you feel special? Well you should always feel special, even if someone isn’t putting their insecurities on the back burner to make a vlog for you. 
lovergirl wrote:
I have a boyfriend. This girl hits on me at the gym… It’s unlike any way i’ve ever been approached. I don’t think I like girls. I like her though. I really hope it’s no just me liking attention. I wouldn’t want to hurt her by my selfishness. She has pretty hair, and the way she looks at me makes me nervous…..
I’m 22. Femme, but athletic.?I like her.
GreenIIsGood write:
Here is a shocker: I’m in my 30s, married for a while and have a litter of kids.
I really, really like women. Kinda always known that but….
Finally got “it” to happen a while back with someone who’s in her 40s. This was a first for both of us. Now we can’t get enough of each other. She is in a relationship long term with a guy. He tells me he would have never known that about her. He is cool with us, which is great. I am realizing men are so lacking.
So, I am kinda confused, I am thinking I’m bi, cuz yes, I do have interest in men, but I mostly just like to dominate them but when it comes to my girl, it’s a whole different feeling-like what have I been missing all this time????
Anyone out there with a similar situation?
AGirlInTheMiddle wrote:
A very long comment but the end was …..
From the time I was in elementary school until now I’ve always been attracted to tomboy-ish or androgynous girls. In high school I had a huge crush on a girl and still fantasize about her now and then. And its not purely a sexual fantasy, I think about holding and kissing her passionately and telling her sweet things to make her feel good.
After all this explanation, in short, I’M CONFUSED! lol I want to be with a girl so bad, the thought seems so right, but I love the man I have with all my heart… Please tell me theres been other girls that have been this confused.
Well you get the point. The topic of my upcoming, debut vlog will be “How To Know if you’re a lesbian!”
So stay tuned.
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I have to admit, when I first saw my comment on the top of your page in hot pink, I definitely threw up in my mouth a little. I thought to myself O, my… wait… what is this? My little confession of an infatuation, (one that is sooo sweet and gentle) is game for everyone to see. EEEK!
However, I’m really interested and excited to see what you have to say…
Also, how do you know if this girl is good to get involved with? I mean how do you know if she’s good for you?
(feeling muddled I am slowly stepping away from the keyboard.)
A bit of advice for lovergirl – if you are a lesbian, I think the whole “is the girl good for me?” comes kind of naturally. Or maybe I just got lucky.
I came out relatively “late” in life (32) and though I was sexually attracted to women, I could come home from a date and easily identify whether I was interested in a relationship (mostly not). This was in huge contrast to dating men, when I was more “oh I guess he’ll do”. I had no way of identifying good males from bad males, but it seemed to happen naturally with women. And when I met my partner/wife, it all hit me. I wanted to be with this woman… dating casually at first, but soon enough I was in love. It just came naturally. I wasn’t looking for a lifetime relationship, it just works out in my opinion, when you’re dating the right gender.
Wow….. that last comment was very insightful, valuable, and completely relatable… Especially the “he will do” part… It must feel really wonderful for a relationship to be so organic….
I agree with LesbianWife a lot, too. I also came out relatively late in life (24 as bi, then 28 as les after hooking up with my first and current special lady friend almost two whole years ago), and the experience has been similar.
With guys, I was always drawn to and attracted the “wrong” ones.I wasn’t really good at pegging a male personality that could work in the long term in tandem with mine- and, well, that turned out to be irrelevant anyway as I would eventually lose almost all attraction to any of them at all.
On my first girl date, however, I was able to identify as a total dud by the end of the night, despite spending YEARS chasing this chick and longing for her (or so I thought). Since then, my girl has been the only one that hasn’t sent up some sort of major red flag of some sort or another telling me to “run away!”
Unfortunately, it’s not that easy or simple starting out. Had I gotten with that chick I chased in the early days when we first met and fell for each other, she would have handed me ass on a sandwich between two pieces of my broken heart with a bit already taken out of it.