Comments on: Friends with Straight Girls!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 22:49:08 +0000

I guess this is sort of a weird topic for me because most of my friends by default are straight. On one hand, I chalk that up to living in a mostly rural midwestern area. On the other, though, my girlfriend and I neither one have any desire whatsoever to be part of the local “scene.”
I mean, if you girls living out on the coast or a major metropolitan area think your gay subcommunities are rife with cliquishness, drama, and gossip, well, imagine that same thing being coupled with the “regular” cliquishness, drama, and gossip of your standard backwoods small town.

That’s not to say that the only reason I have the hetero friends that I do is because I don’t have any other choice. I am extremely fortunate that I’ve met and retained friendships with the wonderful girls and guys that I have – nearly all of them were my friends before I came out, and absolutely none of them ditched me after I did.

By: L.A. Boi

L.A. Boi — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:10:30 +0000

I think it’s really hard to be friends with straight girls. They get all weird about the lezz thing and always think I’m checking them out. But every once in a while theres a cool chick thats not like that. Sounds like your new friend is one of the good ones.

By: Joe

Joe — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:08:15 +0000

Ha! I bet Remi’s the one that’s really happy your new friend is straight. I know if you were my girl I wouldn’t let you hang out with anyone but super straight women and very gay boys. LOL

By: jesse

jesse — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:05:57 +0000

It is really hard to make new friends as adults. I work in pharmaceutical sales so I don’t really have any close colleagues. Now that we’re all out of college where we were sort of forced to bond with other people in the same place same age group. It’s not that easy anymore.

I’m so glad you found Lana. I really hope your new friendship blossoms.

Oh does she read your blog?

By: Plain Jane

Plain Jane — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:05:41 +0000

I love new friends. I’m actually having trouble. While showering today (that’s where I get my best thinking done) I realized that I don’t have many anymore. I don’t have friends that weren’t my girlfriend’s friends before I met them. I don’t have a support group any longer. It was kind of depressing. I’ll have to force myself to mingle. It worked out well for you!

By: Donna

Donna — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:49:10 +0000

I’ve thought many a time it’s best to be friends with straight women. There is no envy that mucks things up, nor hidden agendas that create weirdness. You’re not at cross-purposes with a straight women like two single gay women are. I’ve several single lesbian friends, but compared to the number of lesbians I’ve met and made the decision *not* to befriend, they are the tiny tiny minority.

That being said, too bad your friend is straight…..she sounds lovely. (I’m a South Bay lesbian looking to meet other locals.) Maybe she has other lesbian friends besides you and Remi? If so, help a sista out!