So there was a little dyke drama in the “friend” department lately but I’m not even sure I want to blog about it. It’s really already taken up more then enough of my time and worry.
But I’m trying to get back to my old blogging self that would write about everything and anything without fear of consequences. I say, fuck the bullshit! It’s my blog and I’ll write what I want!
I will give you a quick and dirty little rundown of my side of the story:
Girl meets group of girls.
Group of girls is something like a self-made lesbian sorority. Complete with bitchy, uptight attitude.
Girl joins group.
Girl never really fits in to group.
Girl distances herself from group, as the group simultaneously does the same over hypocritical judgments and rumors about girl.
Fine.
Girl remains friends with one member of group who also parted ways with the group for too many tedious reasons to list.
Girl’s friendship with other ex-member is always a bit strained, but girl tries to make it work. Girl goes out of her way several times to see her friend and spend time with her.
Girl can’t make it to something for several reasons, which she explained to her friend, hoping she would understand.
Girl never hears from friend again, except to be told that a pumpkin carving party that she was invited to and RSVP’d to, was cancelled.
Girl just saw on myspace a comment on her friend’s page that the pumpkin party was loads of fun.
Oh.
Girl realizes she is no longer friends with this other person.
Girl deletes all these bad people from her myspace page and doesn’t give a flying crap what any of them think about her.
Girl blogs about it and thinks it’s funny if any of them read it. Not that they would admit it.
So, for any of you who may not have cracked my code: The character of “Girl” is being played by yours truly and the rest of the cast really doesn’t matter because they’re mean and I’m done with them.
In the end, I know I never did anything wrong to any of them. I tried to be friends with them, but I don’t let people run all over me either. Because friendship isn’t about seeing who can be cattier, or bitchier, or spend the most money or drink the most or use other people and then brag about it. At least not in my book.
So that chapter of my life is closed. Hell, it’s more then closed. I ripped it out of the book and burned it in the kitchen sink.
In the mean time, I’m focusing on building some new friendships with some people I actually have things in common with! Wow, imagine that. Where did I find such a thing? At my gym.
And guess what? As it turns out, people that spend all day long learning how to beat people up are actually really nice and really chill. I guess you get all the aggression out on the mat and all that’s left is the good stuff.
Life’s too long to waste it on mean people.
Fake cancelling something is the lowest of the low. They should have had the guts to just not invite you. You’re well rid of them I think.
I don’t know why you even bothered with those people. I’ve known you for almost 8 years now and I’ve never known you to be catty. Bitchy?? well sometimes … let’s just say you can definitely give as good as you get.
I hate to break it to you, but I always thought from reading your blog that you were one of those ‘Mean Girls’. Like a cheerleader in highschool, only hung out with other pretty girls. I read your blog and you’ve done some pretty horrible things yourself.
But maybe you’ve matured and you’re not like that anymore or maybe you never were and I’m assuming too much. Whatever the case is, they sounded like useless friends to have anyway.
uggg. That sucks. well at least now you can find friends who are up front with you!
Let me start by saying although I don’t know these girls.. i KNOW these girls and they’re narcissists so you KNOW they’re reading (Hi Girls!!!) LOL I can almost hear it now “do you BELIEVE she bloged about it” “omg LIKE tootaaally” “as IF” “ewwe my pumpkin is gooey! like GRODY!”
GIve me a break. Sash – you’re better off without these catty bitches in your life. I swear there ARE normal lesbians out there that don’t need to cut other people down to make themselves feel better. The only thing you can do is remove the toxic elements from your life, stay true to you and laugh at their petty bs…it just chalks up to jealousy anyway. Soon enough they’re going to realize that if they’re talking that way about other people, chances are they’re talking that way about EACH OTHER.. and that’s not a friend. When their boobs start to sag, they’re over run by the new hot “it” lesbian soriority and realize they’ve alieniated every true friend they had the opportunity of making, you and Remi can look back and laugh and feel sorry for them…I already do.
he he he” i know the girls your talking about, and its not about there ass holes or not, its more about, “Well thats the end of that” kind of thing… dont waste your time on such People <——– not saying girls (me trying to be a good girl) yeah thous kind of chicks <—-(HA HA HA HA LOL!!! CANT HELP IT , IM AN ASS HOLE) dont even know that their like that, they are obliviose to the fact. I think thats just the way they are, but arnt we in a great socity that, that crowd is no longer the RULE THE SCHOOL crowd. The cool thing about that is, thouse people have NO IDEA that “hey we are the majority” and now your on OUR turff, and hey out here we call the shots and if we dont want to deal with your shit… hey! we dont have to. ….
Ya know, if I didn’t know you or any of these girls I would say the same thing everyone else says. Screw em, you don’t need em, you’re better, blah blah. But, I do know how hard this friend of yours has tried and how much effort she has put into your friendship. Which, though I don’t know you THAT well, I do know that is quite the task and takes a lot of effort with someone like yourself.
I do agree with what you say about the “mean girls” whom you separated yourself from, but the rest of this blog is completely false. It makes me angry that you make this person look like such a shitty friend and a “mean” person when she isn’t. She’s just straight up- how many times can you disappoint someone before they start to lose faith in you? This person literally was broken hearted over the last time YOU flaked out on her. You paint a pretty picture playing the victim role in order to get attention from people who don’t know any better. And I believe that this situation may have been fixable, but your extreme and immature reaction to this has killed that possibility. And FYI- it wasn’t a fake cancellation. The party WAS cancelled, and then when it was back on, YOU just weren’t REinvited, because there probably would have been some reason why you wouldn’t show anyway.
Ex-walking Awesome …. whoever you are, too bad you don’t have the guts to just say who you are, since you’re standing up for her. All I have to say, is that this was not one sided. I tried and tried as well. And that every time I saw her for as long as I can remember practically, it was all on HER terms.
Yet EVERY time I invited her to ANYTHING, which was quite a few times, she was always busy.
The last time I “flaked” on her as you say. Was me telling her that I couldn’t make it to Taco Tuesday in Huntington beach (which conveniently was 5 min from her work but 2 in half hours in traffic from where I was coming from) because we wouldn’t be able to get there until they were just about to leave and what was the point in that?
Not to mention that I had started classes again and I had class on THAT night. But I had told her that I was excited to see her for the party. And when it was canceled I sent her a text asking what had happened and was she ok. To which I NEVER heard another word from her.
So I figured that I would take her silence and the fact that she would only hang out when it was on HER terms, as a sign that the friendship was less then I had thought it was.
I guess we’re both just better off.
friendship shouldn’t be this difficult. life is too short so love the one you got.
i always wondered how people who always have short-term friendships manage to survive the turnover.
at least you can learn from her the type of friend you do not wish to be.
There are a lot of things I could say about you Sasha. I’ve been in your life for 12 years and you’ve been one of my truest friends. One thing I will say is that you do know how to be a friend, and a good one. If you didn’t how would you be able to count at least 5 friends that you’ve had for 21 years, 12, 10 and 9 years with these different people in your life?
Which tells me that, it was probably them more then you that ended this friendship. Although the Ex-whatever wrote that it probably could have been saved had it not been for your extreme reaction. I know you and I know that that “extreme” reaction was a LONG time coming. That person doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
Keep your head up beautiful. You’ve still got us. And you always will.