Even if you won’t admit it, I will. I’m prejudice. I’m prejudice against short girls and very very tall girls. But only if I plan on dating them.
As if lesbians don’t have enough to worry about when it comes to finding love, one thing that a lot of us look at is how tall she is. Is she too tall? Is she too short? Will I look like gigantor walking down the street with her? Will I break her if I if sit on her lap?
No matter how hot that little cutie is on the dance floor, if she’s too little I’m not going anywhere near her. I’m 5 ft 7” and can be found running around in 4 inch heels any day of the week. Do the math … that makes me an Amazonian 5 ft 11” in my favorite boots. If I walk up to that little 5 ft 2” hottie with bird bones, I’m going to look like a giant. In a girl’s brain giant translates as fat. So no matter how many nights I spend at the gym, my bones alone are going to outweigh her by more than my fragile ego cares to admit.
But too tall can be a problem too. Any girl over 6 ft starts to give me a complex. I’m not used to feeling like Napoleon but looking up all night long at a Glamazon has never really been my cup of tea.
So that leaves me holding a sign that says: You must be this tall to ride to this ride. In my universe, this tall means between 5 ft 6” and 5 ft 9”. The sad thing is that I know this cuts out an entire world of amazing women. I’m not saying I’m 100% against dating someone who doesn’t fit into my ideal height requirement. I’ve dated short women before. But its been my experience that the short ones tend to be extra bossy. But that’s a whole other blog.
What I’m left wondering after writing this is, is this mostly just a femme problem? Because I know a lot of butch women who love to date girls shorter then them. I think they’re called spinners. 
The more I think about it … I think it’s really more of a weight issue than a height issue. The last thing a high maintenance femme wants to feel is fat. It’s pretty hard to weigh less than someone 6 inches shorter than you. So dating someone near your height and weight isn’t discriminatory, its self preservation. Think of it as a preemptive strike against eating disorders and low self-esteem.
So next time that dime piece that’s been staring at you doesn’t come over, walk by her and see how you two measure up. If she’s a head taller than you, it’s not you. It’s your height.
Update: Since this was originally posted I have fallen madly in love with Remi. Who you all know, is 4 inches shorter then me. 8 when I wear heels. And you know what? Her height doesn’t matter one iota in our relationship. So next time you see a girl who’s a lot shorter or a lot taller …. go talk to her! She might just be the love of your life.
First of all………LMFAO!!!
“You must be this tall to ride to this ride. In my universe, this tall means between 5 ft 6” and 5 ft 9”.
Did I mention earlier that I’m 5″7 barefoot? ;o)
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I wouldn’t say I’m prejudiced. But I have to admit that too short & too tall can be a little awkward at times.
For example, when your trying to dance and she has her head firmly wedged in your cleavage. I tend to spend the duration of the song hoping she wont suffocate. (Not that I have boobs that could suffocate anyone.) Then there are those body pierced beauties. I worry about the nose/tongue piercing tangling itself in my bra or my imaginary nipple piercing. I’d hate to have to call the fire department one day to dislodge a female from my chest!! LOL! Then there’s the clash of heads when you try to kiss her and she’s not quite as well positioned as you’d like. Finally, while the height thing isn’t usually an issue between the sheets…. it can hinder the odd vertical creative activity!
I guess it has it problems.
But the question is….is she worth the extra effort and the possible purchase of a step ladder to be with? LoL.
I second that LOL to the ‘you must be this tall to ride this ride…’
There’s also another big drawback to dating someone who is of a radically different size to you – you can’t borrow her clothes. Doubling your wardrobe is surely one of the main benefits of being a lesbian, right??
LOL!!! ROTF!!! =’D TO FUNNY, but true, as i say on my myspace “why are all the fine girls taller than me”??? but the way you said it sounds better, i mean its true that is exactly how we feel then i wonder do they have to were the high heals? and sure as day the chick is much MUCH HOTTER with the heals on.. and you know that a stud HAS TO have the sexyiest girl in the room, so all in all it dose put us studs in quite a bind… and TO MAKE THINGS WORSE most THE FINE GIRLS ARE taller than the studs out there, just makeing it harder for us studs to go head up with our male competitors, i dont know… i guess its all in like home girl up there said, is the girl worth it.. would be the ending factor….
ROFL! Girl I am so with you on this.
Word for frickin’ word. lol
I believe my ex, the one you met when WE first met, is still available. She’s, um….. “tall”.
First off, thank you ladies … ALL of you for sharing your wonderful stories and opinions on the topic….and um, Alejandra, did I mention 5’7″ is my FAVORITE height on a girl? …..and to my homie Maggie …. WHO are you talking about? AND thanks but you know I don’t do sloppy seconds
LOL …. luv ya!
Maggie: NEVER MIND …. I just realized who you meant!!! Um yea. NO.
yeah it doesn’t work out too well…I don’t wear my hot pumps anymore
This is the most vulgar thing I’ve heard in a long time. The last thing that we short girls need are the femmes turning aggainst us, too. As a bisexual woman, I’ve run up agaginst rampant height prejudice by men who only want girls average height and above. The world doesn’t need the ladies hopping onto this discriminatory bandwagon, too.
I’m 4’10 and, I’ll admit it – I can rarely get a date. Your type of attitude is what’s to blame for this problem. A ‘Type of Self-Presevation,’ you say? It’s more like a call to arms, and you’d best be keeping your harmful opinions to yourself in the public arena, or you may not like the consequences…
Lolol!!!! Remi here, I just want A. Corbeaux to know that Sasha is about 4 inches taller than me. So I don’t think she discriminates as much as you think. Sounds like you have a little but of a complex ; )
I stumbled across this post and had to read it twice because I was shocked at the shallowness it gives. I know this is an older post but I want to lay my 2cents. Everyone has a right to have preferences on who they prefer to date but it does prove my theory that discrimination, prejudices and heightisms are just as rampant in the gay and lesbian community as they are in the heterosexual world. There is enough adversity for gays and lesbians to face but is further compounded by being judged further by fellow lesbians.
I’m a lesbian that stands at 5ft and never had an issue with my height. I find that it’s not me who has the issue but it’s the people around me that do or those who point it out. If a tall lesbian feels uncomfortable standing next to a shortie because it makes her feel like an amazon or fat, then it’s very telling of how much of a complex and insecurity she has with her OWN height. I dated a tall lesbian who stood at 5’7 flat footed who constantly felt insecure standing next to me and I started to see the lack of self-confidence and numerous insecurities she had…I truly felt sad for her. If it all boils down to whether or not she’s worth the effort at the end, I probably would say no because shallowness is not worth or deserving of my time.
Dear OneShortie:
I’m 5’0 tall too and have never had any issues with it. Actually, I find being short a good thing, because if I ever meet anyone who brings up how short I am, I eliminate them immediately. They’re clearly insecure and therefore not right for me, regardless of their height or lack thereof.
That said, time to get over it. Lesbians are people, and guess what? We judge people and have preferences too. Add as many -ists to it as you want, and kick and scream, but it’s reality. Call it shallow if you want, but the girl knows what she likes and that’s a-ok with me. At the end of the day, we all have to be comfortable with whomever we’re in bed with, period.
lol @ WWG.. Aww c’mon now, a little teasing about being a leprechaun never hurt anybody. (I should know because I am 5’4-1/2″ and a ginger.) I usually notice (and tease)when a girl is shorter than me but it’s only because I am so happy to be in good company. I love women in stilettos and short women make it easier for me to reach when they are in stilettos. lmao! That being said, a woman in heels usually puts her cleavage right where it needs to be so I have NO complaints against tall women either. Sasha your honesty is hilarious. I like to see when women who say “I’d never..” are given exactly just that and they love it.
It’s coz the norm is to be heterosexual and be either the tall strong man or the petite woman. It’s sad to hear you say things like “a gir’s brain this and that” Come on, we are all different. Whatever happened to liking someones personality and style!?
Oh well, I’m 5’4 and I could rock your world. Peace
Interesting. I agree with Hanna about the importance of liking someone for personality and style. I don’t have personal experience with the tall/short girl situation, but Crush dragged me to her salsa dance class last night (co-ed) and some guy shorter than me (I’m short at 5’3) was dancing with me with his face facing into my chest- AWKWARD- yeah NO thanks. LOL (I think I would prefer the tall/short girl situation over that. LOL)
Well, I’m 5’9 to 5’10 and I love short AND tall women! Heck, I love women!! It doesn’t matter how tall or short you are. It simply matters that our heart’s communicate as one! If I care/love you and you feel the same for me…no one or “ANYTHING” should be able tostop that love or show of affection. This is the most important thing – is it not, ladies?
So, if yes…what are all of you beautiful femme’s fussing about? That photo could say a thousand unspoken words! Like…ain’t love possible here too? I’m just saying…
I should say…”nothing” or anyone should be able to stop…
Being a tall girl is super hard! I’m 5’11 & I stopped dating men because they are not attracted to tall women & then sadly found out neither are women
lol should have been a guy but I’ll live.
Everyone has their own opinion but we don’t have to agree with it. People people please! get a grip. I’m 5’11 and a Femme a.ka Lipstick Lesbian. it’s extremely hard to find women who don’t mind a Tall Thick women like myself…what am I going to do? cry in a.corner to wish I was shorter? Hell no. Every women must embrace their height and what makes them different from everyone. I would also like to say it’s a but shallow for most women to judge upon height…then again let’s be REAL here. Ladies live your life and you are Sexy no matter what. I have love for the short women but tall women RULE!
xoxo,Kitten