What I ended up looking like.
Halloween is quickly approaching and I have somewhat of a dilemma: costumes. To be more specific, Remi’s costume.
Since I don’t think she wants me ruining the surprise for our friends about her costume, all I can say is that it’s sexy as hell and unbelievable femme. Well, femme fatale to be excruciatingly exact. Which is fine. I’m secure enough to let my girlfriend prance all over West Hollywood wearing something she won’t even wear for me in the bedroom, but still … my mind tends to wonder about things.
I know this is all basically bullshit, but I’ll share my thought process with you anyways.
First of all, I feel like I have to try to keep up on the sexy-evil-lesbian-Halloween-costume theme. Which is fine, except that I don’t feel like I can really compete with what’s she wearing. Basically, she has one of those perfect bodies that you usually only see in movies. So she can pull off things I wouldn’t have worn when I was 19.
Besides that, sexy usually equals heels (for me) and there is no way in hell I’m walking all over WeHo in stilettos. I want to have fun, not blisters. So no matter what Remi’s wearing, I am going a bit more casual.
Then there’s the whole “my girlfriend is going to look more femme then me” thing. Which is fine but it’s not normal for us. At all. It’s actually almost weird for me. Now I feel like I have to be the butch for the night and make sure no one grabs her ass all night long. I guess a little role reversal never hurt anyone, but it does feel a little awkward.
Oh and speaking of awkward, if we were to run into one of my ex’s who’s VERY butch and she were to see Remi all femme’d out? Well … that would just be funny. So I guess that’s worth it.
So I guess for this Halloween, I’ll be a butch. 
Reading between the lines….what I hear you saying is “holy freakin’ moly I’m leaving my comfort zone! Yikes!”
Own your feelings. It IS freaky. The butch/femme dynamic is a kind of ‘gender’ construct. It IS odd to cross those lines. You might consider going ‘butch’ for the evening and experiencing how that feels. And besides, doing a little role reversal can lead to some really HOT sex later…..AFTER you’ve had your meltdown about how weird it all is.
Good luck, have fun and love each other.
Oh, I’d be really interested to know how Remi feels about the experience when it’s all said and done.
I definetly don’t think you should go butch, Sasha. There’s nothing wrong with both of you being femme for the night. A lot of butches have a softer side and if she can’t express it on Halloween then when?
Please DO NOT go butch Sasha.
If Remi wants to go all sex pot on your ass, be happy.
But you better post pics!
Dude!!! I want pictures, lots and lots of pictures