When Remi got home from her meeting, she had brought me lunch and acted like everything was normal. Which was nice but also a little infuriating. Part of me wondered if she really thought it would just all blow over that easily?
I pointed out the letter to her and she told me, “I don’t want to read it right now. Let’s wait till after we eat.”
So we ate ….. in uncomfortable silence and as soon as we finished she picked up the 3 page letter and began reading.
When she was done, she didn’t have much to say. Not like I really left her much room to say anything.
But so began our 9 hour long discussion/fight/argument/crying marathon and in the end, decided to give it another shot.
Breaking up was horrible but staying broken was unbearable. At this point in our lives breaking up isn’t as easy as just saying the words. We live together, we have shared assets and finances. It would take months to actually “split” us up and that would be agony.
I love her and I know she loves me. She promised that would never happen again.
I promised that if it did, we were really done. Because if she ever does that again, she knows she’s making a conscious decision to end things. So all I can do is wait and see.
Don’t get me wrong, anyone who reads CCL on a regular basis knows that Remi is 99% of the time, a truly amazing girlfriend. She spoils me rotten, we take care of each other and she’s my best friend. We’re good together. So after the dust settled, we realized that we owed it to ourselves to stay together and use this as an opportunity to be a better couple.
Yes, Remi fucked up. Several ways that night. But so have I on other occasions and she has forgiven me. I owe her that.
We’ve always talk about our future together. We’ve been looking at new houses in Long Beach with a realtor, for goodness sake! How are we supposed to last a life time if we can’t make it through the rough patches?
I know some of you have made some valid and brutal points, as to what the underlying motivation (even on a subconscious level) may have been, behind Remi’s drunk behavior. Believe me, I had already thought of those and that was why I broke up with her.
Sasha & Remi
But after all the tears and hurt feelings, I still want to be her girlfriend.
I hope it will work out!!
Awww! Cute ^^
I saw this after commenting on a previous post, but this reiterates what I said. I am very relieved to hear you’re taking another stab at it. You’re right. Rough patches do make a couple stronger if they can get through them. Cheers to you both! =) *big happy grin*
Forgiveness is incredibly powerful…both giving and receiving. And you’re so right – a strong, healthy relationship takes work…it’s not all candy and roses. There will always be rough patches, the trick is both parties rising to the challenge.
So happy for both of you!
Power to you. I think you should always try to work through the rough spots. I’m glad it’s working out.
Yay! Good for you guys. Best of luck.
WTF??? I didn’t even have time to take you to dinner?
Joe, you’re such a dick. I’m happy for you Sasha. I knew you guys weren’t actually going to stay broken up. You’re happier then I’ve ever known you to be since being with her.
Okay, I don’t understand your new layout & I can’t find the blog entry where you actually talked about breaking up with her.
There’s a “recent posts” section, but I can only get the last 5.
Hey Crystal,
Sorry … I was afraid that was going to happen. They WERE in the slider. But I took them out and now they’re in recent posts: Drama in West Hollywood and Outlining the drama …..
atta girls… *hugs*
“so began our 9 hour long discussion/fight/argument/crying marathon”
Ha, definitely NOT making light of a major romantic meltdown but goddamn, can I totally relate to one of THESE kind of prolonged sessions.
Things happen, all sorts of things. Things we can control, things we can’t. Love pushes through all that. Hugs! and the best to you both.
That’s such a lovely photo.
Thank you, WWG
Sorry, so late, just found this blog. I’m diggin it
Wanted to say….. Awww, very nice. Nice to know there are some adults out there who understand the concept of give and take and FORGIVENESS. I know I’m not perfect.