I have always found it difficult to get close to other women and form those tight-knit friendships i’ve always been so envious of. You know the kind; where a group of girls are all best friends, constantly together, call each other to discuss the most mundane detail of their lives, never fearing that they’re intruding, boring or interrupting one another. Because even if they are, that’s what friends are for.
I’ve had a couple “best friends” over the years. One from Jr. high-school that I’m still close to, but she moved out of state, is straight, married and the mother of two. So you can imagine that we don’t have that much in common anymore.
The other one was my best friend throughout college and grad school but sex, lies and misunderstandings followed by more lies ended that friendship in a blaze of tears, yelling and slamming doors. I haven’t spoken to her since. Which saddens me because I was positive we would be friends till our last breath. We had that sort of magical friendship that usually only happens when you’re five. The kind that every discussion disintegrates into a giggle fest and you can finish each others sentences or read each other like a book without even saying a word. That sort of friendship is rare.
Which brings me to my current situation of being in serious need of a replacement best friend. Huh, easier said then done. It even occurred to me to take out a craigslist ad. It might read something like this:
Seeking new best friend to take the place of old broken one. Must be honest, loyal, kind, love animals of all kinds. Vegetarians get bonus points. MUST get along with my girlfriend amazingly well but not be the least bit attracted to her AT ALL.
Please be a LESBIAN or a very GAY boy that enjoys going to art galleries, museums, coffee shops and thinks that bookstores are a little slice of heaven. Lesbians holding any post grad degrees will be given special attention in the application process even if it was in women’s studies. Or at least be well read and well spoken in areas of spirituality, philosophy or anything that matters more then what new STD Paris Hilton may have.
Age, race, appearance does not matter. I don’t care what you do for a living as long as you enjoy it and don’t complain about it on a daily basis. Please be overly optimistic as I am easily brought down by pissy people.
Also please please live within a 10 mile radius of my house since I hate to drive and would just love to be able to say, “I’ll be there in ten minutes” at the drop of hat when you have some lesbian drama emergency that calls for the immediate attention of a best friend. In which case I will jump on my beach cruiser and swoop in to save the day.
New best friend must be quick to laugh, slow to anger, and also in need of a new BFF.
Ummmm …… I really do miss having a best friend. I’m almost willing to post that ad just to see if anyone responds!
this is a bummer…I meet all the criteria except for being a vegetarian and living within a 10 mile radius.
oh well.:)
i think best friends, like awesome girlfriends, turn up when you least expect it, and when you really need them the most.
you’ll find her. have faith.
GG
Can I just copy that and post it on my local craigslist? I have a sort of best friend who is going to college out of state and she sort of drives me crazy… At this point I would be happy with more gay friends period, especially lesbians.
Sigh…
I totally fit the bill, where do I send in my application?!!!
I’m not kidding!!!!
I’m really curious as to what happened with your old best friend. ” …but sex, lies and misunderstandings followed by more lies ended that friendship in a blaze of tears, yelling and slamming doors. I haven’t spoken to her since.” …. now that sound like a blog I want to read!
Sigh…I was just thinking about this yesterday. I miss having best friends near or even having some that I have many interests with and not just some. Everybody always seems to be going in different directions. Im also not one of the regular girls. Im a tomboyish femme into spiritial reading, art, snowboarding, skating, hiking, trying new things, like a good bubble bath, want to feel protected but still able to defend myself, did I mention I like to play outside? play a bit rough with my dog, you get the point….so it makes it even more difficult to find a female bff that is also into these things and does them on a regular basis! I come across more people that say they want to do but dont actually do. Well I know there is plenty of people out there that would Love to be your best friend there Sasha. So it wont be long.
“love does not consist of gazing deeply into each others eyes but in looking straight ahead together in the same direction”
Aw….damn….I live to far away…but other then that….I could’ve been perfect
well dont really know what to say about this one.. kind of feel bad, i cant be around more to kick it but i know we have fun in our own ways running in to each other every now and then that the hot spots, human rights campanes and such… =) sudvice to say i am content to just read along your side, maby i cant be your best friend, but i know i can be your best reader, i know i am the only one in the WHOLE on line world to find you just because i know your writting style….