Comments on: Star Tattoos: Lesbionic?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:50:04 +0000

Hi, my name is Nicole, and this site popped up when I searched piercings, tattoos & there meanings. So I have a question ; “Does getting a piercing on my middle finger mean anything concerning my sexuality?” I’ve read here that wearing a silver ring on the middle finger means your lesbian. But does that apply to a piercing? I just happen to like it.

-PLZ WRITE BACK. Thanks!

By: Problematyk

Problematyk — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 21:28:51 +0000

It seems like people these days are also getting the equality symbol tattooed on themselves. Thanks to the HRC it is definitely linked to the gay community. I was thinking of getting it done on the middle finger of my hand not sure which one. It looks good and you can get whatever color you like. Be on the lookout for me if you’re ever in Sacramento,ca! I’ll buy you a beer

By: Jai

Jai — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 21:20:46 +0000

How do I get a lesbian card…. Please let me know mwah

By: Bev

Bev — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 20:33:17 +0000

Just found your blog today…..way cool! Luv it. Yes, I do wear a man’s pinky ring…..a pretty ruby and gold. It was my gay uncle’s ring, and now it’s been mine for a couple decades. I’m sure there’s mucho gay mojo in it, not that it matters. Yes I wear a silver ring on my middle finger …..hey! Should my silver ring be on my right or left finger? It seemed at home on my left. Yup short curly hair. The purple yarn around my wrist? Not on THIS grandma…no. But I do wear a loose bead bracelet of deep purple stones on my wrist. No piercings or tats, thouigh I’d love to get a tattoo. My wife gets pegged as my straight sister often, but not me. I don’t know why, cause when I look in the mirror, I just look like my mom when she was……well, when she was my age. Always wondered about her gay girlfriends when I was growing up *L*

By: BeBiBoBum

BeBiBoBum — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 19:18:32 +0000

So what’s the symbol you use to communicate that you’re Bi? Not Bi-curious, not Straight, not Lesbian, but Bisexual all the way?

By: Chichi - The Liddo (almost 18 y.o.) Stud

Chichi - The Liddo (almost 18 y.o.) Stud — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 20:56:10 +0000

I have my left eyebrow pierced already but i want rainbow nautical stars on both wrists and a rainbow Eternity symbol on my neck.

How much more gayer can i get? lol

By: TheCoyoteDreams

TheCoyoteDreams — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 03:28:13 +0000

Thanks Natasia…I think I’ll go for the Lesbian ‘bat signal’ on my roof…I’ll start w/ a nautical star…simple enough. Now to just find a search light cheap on craigslist.

Thanks Elgy, Femmelover & Jazmenha for your replies.

The following is based on my experiences and what I’ve learned on my path in this ‘so called life’ thus far:

The confusion we have, that I see, is the 2-sided gender coin our society/culture says we have to choose from based on our 2-sided sex coin (also false…male, female AND inter-sexed). Once you learn to separate sex & gender it is easier to understand. What I’ve leaned is that sex is what is between our legs (ah, but not always, and is compounded by our genetics and any modifications we may make to our physical bodies after we are born) though it is primarily what society judges our sex on (i.e. male/female). Now gender, that is a rainbow of expressions, definitions, colors, feelings, emotions, words, clothes etc. Gender is how we present ourselves to the world and how the world sees us an how we want the world to see us. Gender is fluid like water or air, but more so, it something we control…yet sometimes it controls us…we try to master it, use it to present our current gender state to those around us depending on our mood, situation, peers, desires, dreams etc. We use it to strengthen the mold we’ve cast for ourselves, and sometimes the mold society has cast for us…then there are those of us that use it fold, spindle and mutilate that mold…break it and create a new one…temporarily…or permanently. Let the guilt, shame & fear go…FEAR: False Evidence About Reality. Regardless…have fun, relax, enjoy the ride, love and respect yourself and it will flow out from you.

Regard, TheCoyoteDreams

By: sam

sam — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 12:36:19 +0000

I have all of these things but I still look straight! I wear a thumb ring, have piercings (25 in total) and 9 tattoos including 2 nautical stars and short hair but everyone thinks me and my girlfriend are just friends unless we’re holding hands! So frustrating!

By: Femmelover

Femmelover — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 05:06:48 +0000

Thanks Jazmenha. I will do what you suggest. And, take care yourself!

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 19:36:53 +0000

I have a star tattoo like that and didnt even realise and i wear a ring on both my middle fingers. GAY XD

By: natasia

natasia — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 15:17:33 +0000

Maybe I should get a nautical star so other lesbians can pick me out of a crowded bar. Or maybe I should just get a huge searchlight and make it into a lesbian bat signal on my roof?

By: Jazmenha

Jazmenha — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 16:29:12 +0000

FL – Jolie is an excellent resource for your ?s – her husband is trans-gender. Her blog has her email. And looks like you can email CoyoteDreams directly through FB ant Twitter (if u don’t hear back on CCL). Take good care.

By: Femmelover

Femmelover — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 05:26:53 +0000

…I should say, what is the main-stream relationship that transgender folks are looking for? I mean, a person transgendering from a man to a woman and vice versa are looking for which gender to form a relationship with? Do most men that change want to be with a straight or gay man? Or, does it not matter? And, do most women who change to a man, want to be with a straight woman or lesbian…or it doesn’t matter?

Signed: Femmelover, very confused.

By: Femmelover

Femmelover — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 04:56:07 +0000

Wow, CoyoteDreams…I don’t presume to understand your dilemma. I’m confused to say the least and a bit challenged to understand. I guess you are far and in-between a lot in our community. Um, I guess what I am trying to understand is the trans person and what their partner preferences are. If someone is transitioning from man to woman and vice versa who do want to be with? Man or woman? It’s really perplexing to me but I am not biased at all…just wanting to understand more about this part of our community.

By: Jul

Jul — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 18:50:28 +0000

Wow…I’ve got like…none of these. No tats, long hair, no piercings…I don’t necessarily get identified as gay, but hey, I think that’s all the more fun when you are.

Guess there’s no sure-fire way to tell…well, at least on the street.

By: Esmeralda

Esmeralda — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 11:45:40 +0000

I have the tattoos,and short hair. Never had the purple string thing, because from what I know purple in the rainbow flag represents bisexuals, which I am not.

By: Elegy

Elegy — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 03:12:08 +0000

Good luck, TheCoyoteDreams! I bet there are tons of lesbians, bisexual, queer, etc. women who are completely fine if not totally into MTF trans- I know personally that I just love women in all their forms as well!

By: TheCoyoteDreams

TheCoyoteDreams — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 04:33:26 +0000

This helps me out a bit…I’ve been a lesbian at heart all my life and been trying to figure it out and how to make myself more silently visible to family. I’m a recent immigrant to the lesbian world since I transitioned 4yrs ago and self-created the beautiful woman/female I am today. I am amazed every time at how many ‘flavors’ the female orgasms experiences are. I’m sometimes ‘read’ and many in the community automatically think that because I’m trans, I’m into boys/men…but they are so off base. I’m into the female energy and experience in all it’s forms…it is with the female form, be it butch/femme/boi/queer. With these road markers now I can more assuredly travel this road and feel a little safer asking for directions. And…I’ll be looking to apply some of these ‘road markers’ to myself as well. Catch me as TheCoyoteDreams most anywhere…FB/OKC/FL/TW…except LJ.

By: Tinker

Tinker — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 22:52:52 +0000

You might want to pick something other than the star, if you or sweetie are from Texas. (The star is PROMINENT on the state seal, on rodeo belt buckles and all the brass all over the state capital, the Texas Navy Flag, State and Texas National flag, and most anything decorative pertaining to the State) Hey, I just picked up a CHROME Belt buckle in the shape of a star in a circle, sold HERE as a Texas Ranger badge look alike. Be Careful…Texas is not LGBT friendly at all.

The lambda symbol is the symbol for wavelength, so be sure she’s lesbian before you make a run on her and find out she’s a MICROWAVE/Radio engineer, though that seems almost like a lesbian signifier, too, or maybe just wishful thinking.

I’d say the triangle, in black, is the best bet, but I’m sure it will be co-opted by Goth girls, too.

By: Jenne Lezbfriends

Jenne Lezbfriends — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 14:18:07 +0000

hey guys just from looking around in the community n outside i’ve seen nati stars on all kinds of peoples wrists.. navy men and women, soccer moms, etc. etc. but a dead dead give away besides lefty wrist on gals/butches are upside down pink/black/ rainbow triangles, rainbow girl O-+ symbles, hammers, sissors, naked ladies or mustaches tattoo, ext.
I however give off friend vibes alot but u can usually tell by three second glances from across the room, belts buckles.. (yeah they aren’t jus for cowboys)body movements, hairstyle (no longer manditory to wear the mullet its 2011 people),rainbows, hankies are an ancient tradition, middle silver ring is of course a give away n pink n both pointer and middle on right hand… (i mean a girls bestfriend is her right hand right ladies?? lol. n oh yeah muffin and cupcake tats are like a new give away to ladies.
okay i live like 60miles from NOLA new oleans baby! n i loved mardigras i saw alot of the “family” in the french quarter sporting there signs
If ya’ll wanna take a gaycation netime soon i recommend going to NOLA!!! its very historical and the community is friendly..

oh yeah n i have a black triangle tat since age 13, 2 more tats tounge, left lip, ears, and i’m a regular at my local gaybar so i’m purty sure its known that i’m a fem altho i bring my str8 friend so most the lezzies often think i’m bi until i by them beers n play a lil pool ohhhhh n i also find that alot of lesbians wear weither butch or fem where tanktops/wife beaters. usually black. yeah i love this life lol