Straight Friends

Boy oh boy, what a difference a year makes. Just about this time last year, all my friends were lesbians. I mean, all my friends. I hung out with this tight circle of pretty, ambitious, intelligent, cut throat, backstabbing, gossipy, alcoholic lesbians that liked to think of themselves as the hottest thing around.

At the time I bought into the hype. I thought that we were all really friends. That we had each others back and would be there for each other through thick and thin. Of course, assuming everyone actually stayed thin enough to remain a member of this pseudo-soriety. But over time, in-fighting, dating & breaking-up within the group lead to the inevitable fractioning off and eventual disintegration of the entire so-called sisterhood of the “Walking Awesome” … their name, not mine.

I was left pretty much betrayed, hurt and confused as to what I did to earn so much disdain from fellow ex-members. So what if I made-out with someone’s best-friend one drunken night, seeking comfort from a crappy relationship I was in at the time?  It wasn’t like she was with that person anyways. Not to mention, it wasn’t anyone’s business. But other then that one incident, the fall out that ensued was beyond me. However I quickly got over it and moved on.

I mean hey, I was in a happy relationship with Remi. Good riddance to poisonous relationships. We made a pact with one another that we would be more picky about the people we let into our lives from now on. Only good, kind hearted people would be allowed in to share our lives. Period. And if that meant friends were few and far between then so be it.

I’m glad we made that decision and stuck to it. Because now, when we look around at our life we realize that we have made a new group of friends. Every single one of them are kind, smart and funny people that we love to share our time and lives with. The only thing that surprises me about our group of friends, that is quickly becoming more like family then anything else, is that they are all straight! With the exception of a few of Remi’s good friends that she’s had forever, all our new friends are as straight as they  come!

There’s Lana, a girl so straight I had to buy her a tee-shirt that says, “I love DICK” for her to wear to Girl Bar, just to be sure she doesn’t give anyone the wrong impression. Then there’s Rod, a truly amazing guy friend we met through Lana who told me, in all seriousness one night he wanted to be my beard. But after further discussion realized that the title, “Lesbro” was more fitting. There’s a few other friends from our fight gym that are sweet and beautiful girls. They’re so conservative in their political and religious views, I never would have thought we would hit it off so well. But that just goes to show you, never judge a girl by her skinny jeans. There are more and I’m sure over time, I’ll blog about all of them individually. But it warms my heart to know that I have some good friends now that I can trust and trust me.

Oh, as I’m writing this I just asked Lana if she wanted to go to Girl Bar with us next Friday and she said yes! This will be her very first time at a lesbian bar. This should be interesting.

So as it turns out, having your sexual orientation as the only common denominator as the basis for life-long friendship??? Um …. yea … doesn’t always work out. But having things like sense of humor, hobbies, values, personalities in common, regardless of which way your door swings, makes for a solid foundation to build, hopefully some life long friendships on.

So now, Remi and I are the token lesbian couple at all our weekly hangout sessions. But honestly, no one cares. Our sexuality doesn’t make a difference to our new friends. We’re all just friends and that’s the way it should have been all along.

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