I just got off the phone with Tony, who understandably is a bit shaken over the comments. But I warned her that you guys were going to be brutally honest with her. Which is exactly what she needs. With her renewed permission to continue telling you her story, here we go again …..
I think Tony was avoiding me for a few days, because I didn’t hear from her for more then a week. When I finally did get a call, it was to tell me that yes, she did indeed get Willa a Mercedes. But I was not to jump down her throat before I heard her out. Here is her lame defense, “Well I didn’t buy her a car. I simply traded in the Caddy for a Mercedes and I’m letting her drive it. It’s still in my name so it’s not like she can just drive off with it.”
Uh huh. OK, I guess this was better then buying her a $50,000 ring that she could turn around and pawn. But still, it was pretty freakin’ early in the relationship to be taking on a ginormous car loan for someone. But whatever.
It seemed like everything was going pretty smoothly for them and I actually let myself hope that maybe, just maybe Willa wasn’t all bad. The divorce seemed to be going through. Tony was happy. Willa was pampered. All was right in the world.
Until late one Saturday night, a little after midnight my phone rang and it was a very upset Tony. Willa hadn’t been home since Friday afternoon. She wasn’t answering her cell phone and she couldn’t find her anywhere. Poor Tony had even called all the hospitals to see if there had been an accident.
When she finally did hear from Willa it was a flippant little text stating, “Hey babe I drank a little too much wine last night and stayed at my friend’s house.” Which was a lie became Tony had already called that friend and knew she hadn’t seen her all week.
Tony was beside herself. First she had been scared to death that Willa had been in some horrible automobile accident, for which she was actually blaming herself for getting her such a fast car. (Can you believe that!?) Then when she knew she was alright, she was furious and justifiably so, concerned as to whether or not she was being cheated on. Hmmmmmm????? I wonder? <—– insert sarcasm here.
Willa finally found her way home early Sunday morning. At which point, she somehow turned the whole thing around and blamed Tony for being jealous and controlling. She actually had the nerve to pack a bag and storm out of Tony’s, telling her she would come back when Tony had calmed down and was ready to apologize!!!!!!
Grrrrr arrrgghhhhh!!!! Let me at her!!!! I was so ready to slap the shit out of her at this point!!!!! I had never heard Tony so upset and hurt in all the years I had known her. Who the hell did this woman think she was treating my friend like this?
Tony is a very intelligent, successful woman yet for some reason she’s totally dumb struck by this chick. While my advice to her was to change the locks and throw Willa’s crap out on the side walk, Tony decided to give her another chance.
So she called her to talk about it.
But wait. There’s no answer. Willa had turned off her phone, taken the Mercedes and disappeared. Again.
This just gets harder and harder to read. I can’t even call Tony an idiot, without calling myself one too. I’ve been there, where Tony is and it sucks. I can only hope that Tony sees Willa for the user that she is, before she makes an EVEN BIGGER MISTAKE, like marrying this woman.
Good luck Tony.
Dear Tony,
Please listen to Sasha and tell this woman to kick rocks.
Anyone who can disappear for days in your car & blame you is full of sh*t. No one deserves to be manipulated & sadly that’s what is happening here. You deserve better than that.
Sincerely,
LB_Boi
First, lets get this straight. I am not the Tony Sasha is writing about. I’m just a reader who like all the other readers wants to tell Tony (with a y) WTF ARE YOU THINKING MAN?????
This girl is bad news. I’m almost scared to read the next part of your story. Lord knows if Sash is writing about it in installments its because it must get pretty fukin juicy. Which can only mean you end up getting royally fucked without any lube.
Dude, tell this broad to hit the bricks. And let Sasha tell Kelly where she can stalk you. She might be crazy but she already sounds better then Willa.
Toni, I am not crazy. But I can’t help it if I feel a real connection with Tony through Sasha’s blog. With every new installment my heart goes out to her. I’m serious Sasha, please please give her my phone number or my email??? I already emailed them to you. I just know if I could talk to her face to face I could make her see there are other women out there that would love and appreaciate her for the amazing person she is!
I’m not crazy I swear.
I find it pretty condescending and hypocritical of you judging Willa for doing exactly what you did. Didn’t you just brag that Remi bought you a new car? Who are you to stand in judgment of another woman doing the same thing you do? Shame on you Sasha, people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones …. at other gold diggers.
Maybe I’m naive or just one of the only real butches left but I don’t see any problem with showering your woman with gifts. If you can do it, do it or someone else will.
The thing about a lot of femmes is that they have bi-sexual tendencies and if they can’t find a lesbian to take care of them they can just as easily switch over and marry a man who will.
It sucks but it’s a fact of life for butches who love beautiful women. If we expect to lure them away from all the security a heterosexual life has to offer then we can’t make them suffer or sacrifice for being with us. If Willa or Sasha decided they wanted to marry some rich man, I’m sure they both could within the year. Their gf’s know this and that’s why they do all they do.
It’s not being a fool to take care of and protect what’s yours. Call me a chauvinist if you want, but I like paying for everything in exchange for having my wifey be at home, faithful, beautiful and happy. It doesn’t hurt that she’s a great cook and always does all my laundry.
This comment is for J.R.
Sasha is not a gold digger. I’m not saying Willa is or isn’t. But as far as Sasha goes, I know her personally and I think she’s even blogged about owning her own house before.
I don’t know where you live, but here in Los Angeles, rent is ridiculous. Remi wouldn’t be able to live any where decent for under $1500 a month. The fact that she lives with Sasha allows her a freedom most of us never know… a rent free/mortgage free existence. While I know that she pays for EVERYTHING ELSE, it shouldn’t be overlooked that Sasha provides the housing.
A gold digger she is not. It’s actually a pretty fair split down the middle if you take that into account.
Dumb people shouldn’t throw stones at people who own their own house.
OK, I would definitely report the car stolen and cut the gold digger loose.
@ J.R.: 1) Sasha owns her house 2) Sasha and Remi have been together for quite a while now. 3) Remi didn’t pay a divorce lawyer for Sasha.
So I see no reason for calling Sasha a gold digger.
So, I understand this is a few days late but I have been reading this blog for a while and never really felt compelled to post a comment until I read this post. I understand this story is a bit of an extreme and I admit I would not have splurged to this extent on a woman this early in a relationship. However, as my gorgeous girlfriend always points out, no one truely understands what goes on in a relationship aside from the two people involved. So this situation aside, the reason I wanted to comment is in response to one of the above comments mentioning something along the lines of: femmes have bi-sexual tendencys and you need to spoil them or they can find it with a man. This seems like more of one persons opinion/pain or excuse and painting a rather broad brush for any butch that wants to spoil their femme.
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and I love to spoil her every chance I get. Granted I am only 25, however I do fairly well for myself and give my lady everything I can. I want her to be able to do what she is passionate about and to enjoy life and not have to worry finances. I love spoiling her, I love buying her fancy things and taking her away. However, I do not do any of this for fear that she would run off to a man to find it. Yes she dated men before me, yes she was engaged to one that could buy her anything she wanted, but I know she is with me because she loves me. She already chose to be with me and doesn’t feel like she is giving up things to be together. Instead, we look of it as a struggle for both of us to be lesbians but enriching our lives by going for what makes us happy. I know if we were financially hurting and I couldn’t spoil her, she would stay with me and work her butt off, but if I have the means, she deserves the best.
If you believe femmes are only spoiled because you think they gave up something and could find it with a man, then what is the reasoning for gay men that spoil their femme boyfriends? Is it because they could easily find a woman that could do that for them and they are giving anything up? I highly doubt it!
I am dating an amazing beautiful woman and love her beyond what money could buy her, but if I have the means, she deserves it all. Not because I am afraid to lose her, but because I want to make her happy. My father spoiled my mother, I was brought up with those morals and that is just me.
Love, relationships, woman aside, finances are relative. A Mercedes and and lawyer fees and thousands of dollars could be as large of a financial burden to one as a bracelet after a few weeks of dating is for a less fortunate person.
And after reading Sasha’s blog for a while, I believe she is far from a gold digger. I think her and Remi have much the same relationship as myself and my girlfriend…. A purchase of a car as a gift means Remi wanted to give her something, not that Sasha might leave Remi if she doesn’t and who knows what goes on between the two of them that Sasha isn’t providing just as much back to Remi, financially or in other aspects of the relationship.
Bottom line: Nothing wrong with spoiling your femme and it doesn’t mean it’s out of fear.
its true.. if i could i would, and when i got a girl i know shes not going away, atleast not for the time i have her, when i get bored or i feel like she’s not happy then i just prep myself to let her go ( witch makes me feel great that i can do that) but in all the comen sense in the world state … “SOOOO … she’s cheating on you” if you can take the pain than take it, but if you cant then dont, just know at the end of all this the one who spent the most money is the one that looks stupid in the end. but mind you THAT IS ONLY IF SOMEONE IS A REAL GOLD DIGGER!! mind you NO sasha is NOT a gold digger, and remi is NOT a sap, last time i cheaked remi got her a gift. as in a suerprise!! not as in will you get me a new car made out of gold, more like an i love you this much. and thats cool in my book, (mind you i have a big book) and they talk to each other, ill be damed if sasha would just disapear like that!! that is a OH HELL NO!!! by then if it was me i would have already taken the key and meted it in to some form of julry and given it to her so that when she asked me where the key was i would be all i got this for you, LOL!!! and when she got more angry i would then answer, but you love me… LOL!!! then she would get mad at me, an probly take a swing at me, and i would just laugh, ( yeah I WOULD LAUGH MY ASS OFF) then when she wanted to leave i would say somethng fucked up like ” theres the door, see how it locks from the inside” ha ha ha, i would not make her stay if she was unsure of her feelings, as a matter of fact if i know for a FACT that someone is unsure of there feelings i will make it a point to push them to the right person, even if it is’nt me, i mean you never know, one could be the reason, the other person is not with there true soul mate… hell you never know about that kind of stuff.. but WE AS A COMMEN SENSE PEOPLE KNOW, THAT GIRL IS CHEATER!!! LOL!!! FOR FUN YOU SHOULD PUT HER ON THAT SHOW CHEATERS!!! HA HA HA THEN YOU WALK AWAY LOOKING LIKE A CHAMP ON T.V. HA HA HA LOL THAT WOULD BE FUCKEN FUNNY!!! HA HA HA then she could send out a shout out to all the homies on card caring lesbian!!! and the show would end and then the girl will come back and say something like, ” im not gay, i dont know what i was thinking” and then all of us would say (to ourselfs of corse) ” SO THATS WAS A BITCH LOOKS LIKE… ha ha ha ha ha h LMAO!!!!!