Comments on: Writing, Dance and Self-Respect: NOT mutually exclusive

By: Lushes LaMoan

Lushes LaMoan — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:51:25 +0000

Bellydance brought about Burlesque, stripping derived from Burlesque. There would not be strippers today that grind on a pole if it werent for the follies and the burlesquers wouldnt be here if it werent for the bellydancers…Thank you Little Egypt. People are so nearsighted when it comes to the arts. Burlesque dancers are not strippers; WE ARE ENTERTAINERS INVOLVED IN THE PERFORMING ARTS. We do not expect tips, we do not grind on a pole nor anyones laps….we may take our elaborate clothing off but it is in a teasing and tasteful manner…..not sexual and not to rob you for your money. I believe that we were all put here for a reason and you are a talented entertainer, do what fills your heart with the most joy! I am proud to be a Burlesque performer I am supported by my family my spouse and his family, I have never been happier in my life. People need to stop being so insecure of themselves…..maybe they need to let loose once and feel the excitment that explodes when the lights are on you and everyone is cheering and happy. I wish you all the best of luck.

I would work your GF into a routine I think that would be super cute…then you can share the experience together! It’s so grand.

Much Detroit Love
Lushes LaMoan
The Detroit Dizzy Dames

By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:59:13 +0000

Do you do private parties? Cuz my birthday’s coming up and I deserve something special. I’m dead serious. It’s at the end of this month. I’ll pay whatever it takes to have you perform at my party. You can even bring your gf as your bodyguard if that makes her feel better.

By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 07 May 2009 03:57:40 +0000

I’ve seen you naked and I’ve seen you dance on stage. Gotta say I miss you right now. Maybe it’s all the vodka. Hard day at work, sorry I maybe shpuldnt be reading commenting on your blog drunk. Call me. Come down. I’ll come and get you.

By: Renee

Renee — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:50:25 +0000

Honestly I would love it if my GF was a dancer cause i know everyone is thinking “Damn I wish I could take her home” or “Damn the person who gets to take her home is a lucky bastard” and I would just get to smile and know that she is coming home to me and my bed. I almost dated a stripper (I say almost because she is bi curious and my best friend.) and would go up to the club she worked at. It didn’t bother me seeing her strip because I knew it was a job to her she didn’t feel anything for the people she danced for she just enjoyed dancing and making money while doing it. I think if you are confident in yourself and your relationship it really shouldn’t bother you.

P.S. I am new to your blog and I am in love with it lol I get off work at about 1 am and I started reading some of your posts while laying in bed (my gf is a heavy sleeper) I couldn’t help giggling and ended up waking her up soooo… I had to make nice lol she says thanks lol Keep up the amazing writing

By: Vera

Vera — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 20:15:00 +0000

My, my , there a lot of insecure lesbians out there. I would do it. I would let my girlfriend do it. I do not own her, I am not her property. And I thought lesbians were supposed to be free of this “whore” and “slut” garbage. Heterosexual men have that covered, we don’t need to contribute to it! If you love it, then do it, no permission needed.

By: Sasha

Sasha — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:11:22 +0000

LurkerLezzie …… I’m starting to love you!! LOL … thank you for being so well spoken in defense of our art and it’s validity. I appreciate it.

By: LurkerLezzie

LurkerLezzie — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:16:45 +0000

Hi again, Sasha –

I seriously doubt that I need to re-state my position to clarify that I was talking about ALL forms of dance. Burlesque is, in my experience, an incredibly challenging art form, no more or less than belly dancing, ballet, modern, tap, softshoe, or ballroom. Lucky you to be able to choose among options for making extra money.

But I’m going to pipe up my two cents’ worth again, and disagree vehemently that there is anything implicitly sordid about accepting private performance commissions. That is the absolute equivalent of saying that a painter is a whore for accepting a portrait commission. Hell with that, all due respect. A good artist does what they have to do to pay the bills AND be able to keep pursuing their art.

If dancing pays for writing for you, so be it. This topic has touched an interesting nerve for me. Educating others about the power and validity of dance as an art form… something I’ve been trying to do most of my life.

By: narcisanise

narcisanise — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 07:47:41 +0000

I have to say is that my mother and father used to take me out to eat and watch belly dancers when I was 5, or before I can remember. As a child I thought the women were amazingly talented, it is a performance like any dance is. It is a cultural dance, say like salsa dancing…is that also a bad thing to do because you shake your hips? They teach belly dancing as a course in college’s just as they do ballet, salsa etc. Yes I do see how doing private shows are potentially dangerous but everything is dangerous…go to an atm at 4am in a bad neighborhood = dangerous. Just use good judgement and you will be safe. I also think burlesque is an art of dance as well. If people would look up the origin of it they would see it is closer to performance art, less like stripping. I also would go on a limb here and say if you are anything like the libra’s I know (myself included) we appreciate some attention. With Remi unable to give you all the attention that you would like at the moment, her understanding that you get that from dancing would be smart because it will actually let you feel adored or admired without getting into a situation that you want to cheat. I don’t know if that makes sense to you. Let me know if you want more clarification or identify with what I think about that. I think she should be secure with you and your relationship and feelings you have for each other and “LET” you do what will make you happy. But are you dancing again just for money or because you love doing it? I agree with someone who posted about dance instructing, if you like doing that. Just do what will make you feel good about yourself and your life.

By: Luis

Luis — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 02:13:16 +0000

I saw Sasha perform at Marg’s house and I thought she was really good. She is one sexy ass mami. I would hire her anytime but I don’t think she dances for men. But if she decided to, she could make a fortune.

By: Sasha

Sasha — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 18:54:16 +0000

Thank you Donna for your latest comment. I appreciate it

By: Donna

Donna — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 16:54:26 +0000

I skimmed the part where you said you were a dance instructor and have a degree in Dance. It’s wonderful that you grew up in a dance studio and you absolutely should share your dance talent with the world as it is such a joy to watch dancers.

(By the way, I see posts all the time on craigslist for part-time dance instructors–ballet, ballroom, hip-hop, etc.)

Sorry for misreading (lazily skimming) your post!

By: Melody

Melody — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 06:52:46 +0000

Hiya! I commented on the other topic about you dancing.. The only worry I have about your dancing… is your safety. I was born into dancing and began it at a very early age as well. You are a very striking woman Sasha.. This is a messed up world.. Please… please be careful

By: Karly

Karly — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 06:51:17 +0000

You mentioned the mindset that infuriates dancers like yourself based on a comment by Donna. I have accepted that others will not like my art style(painting) which can be a bit intense and even gory. They wont understand or try to. I think the same can be said with dancing. It is an art that takes time to become great at. Unfortunately there is many that will see it as purely sexual. Now I do think its very sexy but some people seem to forget boundaries and limitations when anything sexy/sexual is involved. This is where my fear of a gf dancing would begin. I would be fine with more public venues where there is security. Private dancing not so much…and not just because of the potential attacks if you catch my drift.

By: Nulaanne

Nulaanne — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 06:46:44 +0000

I belly dance. I love to belly dance, I can also swing, do some ballroom, square dance, some tap, and I would lobe to leard burlesque. My Honey knows that I belly dance and that I enjoy it. She is also secure in the knowelege that I will only ever possably think of leaving her for two things. One a Tucker Torpeds and Two a 1969 Dodge Challenger in Poppie. She knows that I love her and I know that she loves me and she wouldl support me in what I do.

She might not agree, she might not like it but she knows that I would enjoy it and so support me.

By: Mel

Mel — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 05:52:52 +0000

I have a issue with the question “would you LET your girlfriend do it” or people stating that they wouldn’t allow their girlfriend to dance. Since when does anybody own somebody else? As adults we can make our own decisions about our life, body, how we earn money etc. Relationships should be founded on mutual respect and trust. I am aware that some would see this dancing as being disrespectful but I think deciding what your partner can or cannot do is even more disrespectful.

By: LittleLezzy

LittleLezzy — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 04:50:10 +0000

I think you’re beautiful. If you ever break up with Remi can I take you out? Other then that bit of sleazy behavior (sorry Remi) how much do you charge? I would love to see you dance in person. Are you on YouTube?

By: LBCDyke

LBCDyke — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:42:14 +0000

BTW lovin the photo Miss Sasha. How much do you charge for a private dance? I’m here in Long Beach I believe that’s local for you. How does someone go about booking you?

By: LBCDyke

LBCDyke — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 00:43:06 +0000

I bet Sasha NEVER pays. She’s too femme and isn’t Remi a Marine?? Um yea. I’ll bet you Remi pays for shit. A Marine letting or making a femme pay? Never gonna happen unless they’re a real piece of work and it doesn’t sound like she is.

By: Anonymous2

Anonymous2 — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 00:38:56 +0000

I’m curious what your gf REALLY thinks about you bellydancing? Did she say you could belly dance just to get you not to burlesque dance? I agree with the other comment that called her naive. I can’t blame her for wanting to trust you and work this out with you and not sound like a neanderthal, but there comes a time when you just have to stand up for yourself or in this case, your relationship. Good luck to Remi on this one. I think she’s in a tight spot. Not to sound like a jerk but who pays for shit when you guys go out? Are you maybe dancing again to finance your guys’s Friday nights? Because if you are, I’m sure she’d understand if you two spend some time at home. I know money can be a touchy subject but I was just wondering if that played into it at all???

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 21:45:24 +0000

I want to ask Remi a question. Do you really trust Sasha enough to let her go off and dance in front of every lesbian in Southern California? I mean really. It’s a tight ass little community. If she’s any good and from a few comments left, it seems like she is, she could get very popular among among the lesbian community. Do you really feel that secure about you and her that you don’t mind putting her on display for the rest of the world to get their rocks off? Wow. I couldn’t do it.