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Porn can be helpful!

Posted on 08. Jun, 2008 by Sasha.

Yesterday was my very first porn convention. I was lucky enough to be the date of my amazingly beautiful friend, Nica who runs Sweet Heart Video.

The adult entertainment industry is really a whole other world. As I carefully embark on what could be a new career field, working behind the scenes in “lesbian erotica” I feel as if I’ve just landed on this whole new planet and I’m the alien trying to fit in and figure everything out.

The world of porn is a strange industry to take part in. I’m sure plenty of people have plenty of judgmental things to say about it. I’m not here to defend anything …. it is what it is. There’s good and bad in everything, not just the sex industry so before any of you throw stones take a little internal inventory and see how honest you can be with yourself.

But I digress. My point being that this week made me think about a few things. One is that if I do end up working in this industry, in any capacity whatsoever … how will it affect my personal life? While I was on set, learning how to frame the shots of a particular scene I had this almost out of body experience for a moment. I mean, here I was standing not three feet away from two beautiful women having sex and my only concern was that they had their lines and watching to see how Nica kept them in frame.

I realized that it would be so easy to get even more jaded than I already am about sex. Believe me that’s not an easy thing to accomplish. Since I’m about as jaded as they come. But still, I suppose anythings possible.

Then I found myself doing something I’ve done my whole life. Compartmentalizing things. It’s not that hard. All you do is you find something that means something to you, in this case it was the idea of a loving, romantic relationship someday and I put it in a box and locked it safely away for later. Sort of like filing papers. Then you turn your attention back to the task at hand.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that unlike some people who think that working in the porn industry might hurt my personal relationships, I see it the other way around. To me, it just makes me appreciate true intimacy so much more than I did before. So whenever I find that girl, I know exactly where I filed away that special box and I’ll be happy to unlock it for the right woman. But till then, it’s safe and sound. Hidden away from all the, “Lights! Camera! Action!”

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my foray into the porn industry …. let the adventures commence

Posted on 03. Jun, 2008 by Sasha.

So as some of you may know working as a freelance writer has it’s ups and downs. Even when you sell an article it’s weeks before you see a dime on all your hard work. There are other ways to whore my art out … copywriting, ghostwriting, you get the point.  All of which I do. But still who couldn’t use a little extra money these days with gas prices skyrocketing and no end in sight?

Enter lesbian porn. Yep, you heard me … lesbian porn. My friend Nica, who I’ve already blogged about has been kind enough to offer me a job. Before you get too excited, I’ll be working behind the scenes, maybe even behind the camera (if I’m really lucky) but you will probably never see me.

So to say that I look forward to my new job would be the understatement of the year! I start this Thursday!!! Can you say, lucky lesbian?

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types of women that make good friends

Posted on 31. May, 2008 by Sasha.

When I’m speaking of women that make good friends, I’m talking about to other women.  I’ve touched on this topic before in my blog about lesbians making awesome friends. But a new friend of mine inspired me to add to the list.

Apparently, porn stars also make great friends. My friend Nica is in the adult industry. She writes, directs and stars in erotic films that cater to the female audience.

From the moment we met there was this amazing connection. I can only liken it to when you’re a little girl and you get a new best friend. You can talk all day and night about anything or nothing at all. You have instant trust in one another and it’s just plain old fun to hang out together. Well, it’s that fun with Nica … except instead of being two little girls in grade school, she’s a porn star and I’m a blogging lesbian. Can you see the potential trouble we could get into? Well we can and we look forward to every moment of it.

But I was thinking about how some people might judge her on what she does for a living and how inaccurate those presuppositions would be. Because the more I get to know her the more I see what an amazingly honest, up-front, genuine and kind person she is. I think that maybe, because of what she does for a living (which is fucking cool) she lives her private life in such a way that she’s almost above reproach. By that I mean, she’s not the type of woman to stab another woman in the back. If she’s your friend, than you’re pretty lucky.

Anyways, I could go on and on about how great I think she is, but then everyone at our gym will think I’m sleeping with her … already.

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