Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

Response to Jen’s Comment

Posted on 05. Jan, 2009 by Sasha.

Jen wrote in, “This is really funny to me. I think I was one of the first girls you ever dated. I remember going out with you and we NEVER went home alone. We always had our pick of playthings to take home with us. I can’t believe you’ve closed your bedroom doors to the masses. Wow. She must really be some catch.”

OK just to set the record straight with a comment left by Jen. The doors to my bedroom were NEVER open to the masses. But dating you was definitely an experience in itself. I seem to remember a night when you ended up picking up a group of Aussies.

You left me in the living room with a room full of horny idiots and I didn’t see you again until you came out wrapped in a sheet and told me that your “plaything” wanted me to join you guys. I’m sure you remember the dirty look I shot you as I told you to get your clothes on so we could go.

Yep. Nothing like dating a chick that sleeps with other people right in front of you. Thanks Jen. I think you’re part of the reason I’m no longer attracted to femmes.

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No Strings Attached …. Uh huh …. I’m sure that’ll work.

Posted on 30. Jun, 2008 by Sasha.

When two women agree on a no strings attached, friends with benefits, don’t ask don’t tell policy attached to their pseudo relationship/”we’re only friends” friendship; what does that say about them?

Does that say that one or both of them are:

• Cheaters looking for an easy, almost honest way to keep sleeping around?
• Incapable of commitment?
• Too horny not to grope each other whenever the opportunity strikes?
• Simply afraid of commitment for any number of neurotic personal issues that they seem unable to fix, medicate or ignore at this time?
• That they’re just not that into one another and are using each other to pass the time till something better comes along?
• Or my personal favorite: One of them is a user and the other one is an idiot?
• When someone agrees to an NSA situation does that say something about her self esteem or does it just say she’s a slut?
• Does it say that she’s so hung up on someone that she’s willing to sacrifice what she really wants for just a little taste of the real thing?

I suppose any and all of those are possibilities depending on the situation. I’ll even go as far as saying that the reasons for a NSA relationship could be fluid. Meaning that the motivation for staying in such a situation could fluctuate from one day to the next. She may have agreed to it because she was so into you, she didn’t want to lose you. But as time goes on and other women look her way, she might start to see it differently. More like an advantage than a compromise.

So I’m curious to know, how do you feel about NSA relationships? And I’m not talking about one night stands with people you met on Craigslist. I mean a long-term agreement between two women to be friends, but have commitment free sex whenever one or both of them want it.

Is this a good idea gone bad? Or can there be mutually beneficial factors for everyone involved?

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