Card Carrying Lesbian … What’s in your wallet?

Faking IT

Posted on 14. Apr, 2009 by Sasha.

OK, so a while back I blogged about wanting to get a tattoo. All of you were very encouraging and supportive about the idea. Thank you for all the great tips. However as it turns out the people who are nearest and dearest to me seem to be of the opinion that  a tattoo does not fit me, it wouldn’t look right, I shouldn’t do it, I’ll regret it …. yada yada yada. Basically very discouraging.

Topping the list of boo sayers is my girlfriend. Who herself sports several tatts and various body piercings. Yet she thinks it’s quite the novelty that I don’t have any. As she always says, she loves my “virgin skin.”

She’s even gone as far as bribing me NOT to get one.

But then I go and blog about how lesbians used to get nautical star tattoos as a secret code to each other on the street that they were “family.” So of course my tattoo lust was reignited and I started planning my star tattoo on my wrist. I even contacted an amazing tattoo artist and got a price.

OK, so it was looking like it was all ago.

Until I woke up the next morning and thought, “Wow, thank God I didn’t run out and get that tattoo. ‘Cuz I’m so over it today.”

However, I tend to vacillate between dying to get a tattoo and being glad I put it off the next day. You see, this is where my fear of commitment comes in.

Can I commit to the same tattoo on my body for the rest of my life?

I don’t know yet.

So enter my dorky, yet problem solving side of my personality where I went and bought a ton of cute little temporary star tattoos on Ebay. Yep. I said it. I bought fake tattoos on Ebay.

Now mind you, I am NOT trying to pass them off as real. They are clearly little girl fake with glitter and all. But this way I get to see how I like having something on my skin and it’s still a star …. so if any gay girls see me, hopefully it’ll set off their gaydar.

Yes, I realize I’m a dork. But the difference with me is that I’m proud of that fact and now my biggest decision of the moment is do I want to go with the blue or purple or gold star today?

Ahhhh ….. temporary tattoos …. perfect for the commitment-phobe in all of us.

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Star Tattoos: Lesbionic?

Posted on 08. Apr, 2009 by Sasha.

OK, so how many of you already knew that a tattoo of a nautical star used to be and may still be used as a sign for gays and lesbians to recognize one another on the street?

Is it just a nautical star or any star? Because that would explain a lot of star tats I’ve seen on some of my friends. Yet no one bothered to fill me in. I only came upon this little factoid of lesbian herstory listening to the lyrics of a song called butchfemme.

I’m curious as to what other secret codes do my fellow lesbian sistas use to wave the rainbow flag to one another in public without the whole (breeder) world realizing? Not that I care in the least about subtly. Shoot, I seriously wish we all walked around with a “Soooooo gay” button on our shirts just for the hell of it.

Well these are the sub rosa signs I’ve heard of:

All lesbians wear a silver ring on their middle finger. Check.

If a girl is a tatted up, she’s probably family. Not counting the California license plate that seems to be a requirement for every straight hoochie mama.

Extra body piercings. Check by proxy on this one, my girls got a few of those.

I remember a while back there was a little campaign that never seemed to really pick up steam where girls wanted to wear a purple yarn bracelet or something like that. I never got into that one, since I like my bling to be a little more blingy than something my grandma would knit with.

Short hair. But this only really works with butches and tombois and the occasional femme who’s usually dressed more eccentrically, like pin-up or rock-a-billy.

Other then that I can’t really think of any sure fire symbols we can adorn ourselves with to warn other women that we’re not just being friendly, we’re hitting on them.

So if you know of any other lesbian signals, or you do any of the ones mentioned let me know. I’m actually really dying to come to a consensus on this one.

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