OMG, I keep getting angry comments on my blog about my experience in San Diego, at Gossip Grill, where I realized that the crowd was more Butch on Butch love, then Butch on Femme energy. Which was cool with me!!!!
I mean, hell, I was there with my girlfriend. So it wasn’t like I was looking for attention from anyone but her. I was just surprised at the whole vibe of the place because I had never been around anything like that before.
I was not in any way trying to insult women that prefer butch on butch relationships. Why would I? I am always trying to educate people about our rights to be whoever we want to be and express ourselves in way we feel most comfortable.
I have a tendency to write things as honestly and freely as they cross my mind. And some of you like to take them out of context and try to beat me over the head with them. Which is sad because if you would read my blog in the spirit in which it was written you might have realized that it was a surprise to me and my girlfriend, but that it was never anything that we looked down on.
You can’t really blame me for taking a second to wrap my head around something that I had never been exposed to before. And admitting that I come from an area that does indeed tend to stick to arbitrary and dumb roles does does not mean that I subscribe to them religiously.
Yes, I happen to enjoy the butch/femme dynamic. But I also totally appreciate the fact that others find the butch/butch or femme/femme or boi/boi energy appealing.
Holy smokes people!!!! I blogged about a personal experience I had and how it dawned on me that what was going on around me, was the complete and total opposite of what I was used to. It was funny to me! Not what was happening but that I didn’t get it sooner. My ignorance to the situation and then consequent realization of it was what was funny. Not the women around me. They were cool. In fact, there was a lot of eye candy around and I didn’t mind one bit watching one piece of candy make out with another. It was actually pretty hot.
So excuse me for being honest and naive at the time about what I was walking into.
But let me reiterate. I am not anti butch and butch relationships. I’m all for it! I just can’t be in one myself, because I happen to be femme and that’s just who I am. Just like I understand and respect that some are butchies and some are bois and that’s just how we were all born. Period.
So please, for the love of God stop assuming that I’m anti-butch/butch love. Because nothing could be further from the truth.