OK so you may have noticed that I took a few of the guest blogs down. I have decided to do that for several reasons:
1. While I pride myself on the fact that I don’t censor my writers or the comments section, that has started to bite me in the ass. Unfortunately people can’t be trusted to act properly on their own and I don’t have the patience or time to regulate every single comment that comes through or to proof read the blog posts and make sure that it won’t hurt ANYONE’S feelings!!!
Are you fucking kidding me???
2. There is something to be said for blog etiquette. If someone allows you to post on their site and allow you to link to your own blog, it is rude to then poach readers in the comment section, especially when what you asked me to post was already posted on your blog. NOT COOL. You basically made me look bad by posting old shit. So there you go, you can post on your own blog.
3. I care about my writers because we’re friends and because we’re friends I have let you all do what you want on my blog. But some of you have taken advantage of me and I’m really starting to resent it.
CCL is not free. It costs money to keep running, cost a good chunk of $$$ to remodel and I put a lot of time into keeping it going. I tried to open this up to other lesbians to share things that could help others. Sometimes the guests blogs do help, but more often then not, they just stir shit up!!!
I didn’t write to anyone before writing this. Because no one has respected me enough to think about what’s respectful for CCL and her readers. I guess I’m just pissed right now and taking back my fucking blog.
As of right now, I will be more careful in the guest posts I allow to go up. So yes, I will still be posting SOME guest blogs. But only ones that won’t cause more harm then good.
I’m really upset that it had to get to this. I’m pissed off and no, I don’t want to argue about it. If you don’t like it, go pay for your own blog.
Thanks a lot ladies. It was real.
*hi five*! Your blog, respect is necessary.
Thank you. I was actually going to comment about what you are elaborating on via email. Last night, I actually made about two draft posts in the email, then decided to delete them (I should of followed through), thinking it would go in one ear and out the other. Instead, I just ignored it all, sighed and shook my head, then waited patiently for a post I could actually comment on, without all the drama. I really abhor drama and I will run like it’s the black plague itself.
No argument from this corner.
What the fuck is wrong with people?! No one has any respect any more. It’s all about who they can screw to get ahead. That shit only last for so long until the bitchin Karma train sneaks up on you and painfully runs your ass over!!!!
“especially when what you asked me to post was already posted on your blog. NOT COOL”- I noticed this too and thought that was using CCL , and you Sasha, for a larger audience then their own personal blog. I even commented on the repetition of previously written personal blogs posts then cut/pasted onto CCL it was pretty shocking. Any one who is given any space to post a post (poem, question/advice, general post) on YOUR blog is VERY lucky and should not take advantage of your unselfish generousity to open YOUR blog to other writers. When I connected the dots I was pissed too.
I totally understand my friend.
Agreed..
I’m exhausted from the day and have nothing more to contribute. Instead: Awesome picture! Why have I not seen it before?
I thought that was a little weird, as well.
Sending the same blogs through from your own?
awesome Sasha
, btw want you to know this is the only place I blog. Its your site and your ultimate voice, how its supposed to be.
DDK, your blogs are relevant to others and not hurtful to anyone. I’m happy to have you here.
I’m happy to have my other friends as well ….. As long as they write about things that are thought provoking or sexy or relevant …. And not hurtful to one another. I hate feeling used as a tool to hurt someone else. That’s not what I wanted this to become.
Solid. No issue here.
Good for you! I tried to ask for things to be posted that I thought you would like. Sorry if any of it offended you or anyone else :/
I know the personal blogs to here is me. I actually don’t expect anyone to read mine. I just more of post it there for the heck of it. If I happen to write something good, I submit it somewhere it can actually be read.
Thank you Sasha.
Jaz jumps into work defending and advocate mood- Butchkitty please respect Sasha- this is HER blog SHE call the shots. You wrote ” I just more of post it there for the heck of it. If I happen to write something good, I submit it somewhere it can actually be read.” OMG CCL is NOT a place to just “post something for the heck of it” or a venue to post with a larger audience “somewhere it can actually be read” because you think no one is reading your personal blog. No CCL is a place where the writers put tremendous care, relevance and thought into their posts. It is a place where they cherish the reality of a larger reading audience that Sasha has worked VERY hard to establish. CCL is not your personal “Little Red Hen” storytale. Where the little Red Hen (Sasha) asked for help (included other writers) but they did not pull their weight (be honest in new posts- cut/paste really???) yet in
the end they wanted to eat the bread (have posts read etc) without any respect of the little Red Hen’s request. Sasha is running a mutually respectful blog so please go buy your bread at Safeway. WE LOVE YOU SASHA!!!!!!
Fucking sing it. I had honestly checked out completely for the last few months because CCL was feeling increasingly spammy…like there was no gatekeeper and thus content quality was down, and drama was up. Ick. Sorry you have to be the gatekeeper. It sucks. But it is your blog. Fuck people who can’t respect that and value the trust you put in them by allowing them to post. If they want to throw shit at the wall just to see what sticks, yeah, they can do it on their own dime and with their own readers.
I did notice that one or two blog posts generated drama and most certainly lowered the tone of an otherwise interesting, funny and informative page. For whatever reason these have now been removed, keep up the good work!