A recent comment from a reader named, Elizabeth sparked this most recent post. I’m going to start off by saying that I need help from YOU, the reader. Please leave comments with any pertinent information on the cities listed or any cities left out. Come on ladies, there are lesbians in need of advice.
I’ll start with the comment:
So, the last comment is over a year old now, and the article itself much older still, but hope springs, etc. ^^
My fiancee lives in Melbourne, VIC, and we’re trying to decide where we would be better off living. We’re both on disability assistance, which means that likely the one that ends up moving will lose hers since governments tend not to like sending their money overseas to actually help their citizens… >.>
Anyway, for my part, I’m researching areas that could be potential future homes for us. Criteria-wise, we want to find an area that is both lesbian- and trans*-friendly, that is inexpensive (I know that’s going to be an issue… >.< ), and where we might be able to either connect with friends/support networks, or where we can reasonably easily build them. She’s looking at places down in Oz (though we’re a bit down on that side currently as she’s tired of all the Yobbos (Aussie Redneck-types) everywhere). ^^
I’m trying to put together a list of locations, and then narrow our options from there. We don’t mind cold, but too much rain/cloudy might be an issue. We don’t mind some warm, but excessive heat is a no. ^^ We’re not picky, not at all!
So far, I’ve got the following as early-potentials (I’m hoping for a list of 15-20 of these):
- SLC, UT
- Northampton, MA
- Seattle, WA
- Portland, OR
- Durham, NC
- Asheville, NC
- San Francisco, CA
- Los Angeles, CA
- Albany, NY
- Ithaca, NY
- Syracuse, NY
From these, I’m hoping to get about ten that I can do more in-depth research on, and then narrow that to a list of five to discuss with her. Note that I included Salt Lake as I’m from there, and have a pretty good support network in place. So, help please? Can I get some thoughts or suggestions? Thanks in advance! ^_______^
OK, so I sort of covered what I found out in the original post. But that was a few years ago and a few things have changed. Gay marriage and domestic partnership are legal in more states now then they were in 2009, when I first wrote that. I also found a great article on this very thing over at Autostraddle, The 21 Most Lesbianish Cities in the US: The Autostraddle Guide.
The ladies over at Autostraddle really have a grip on things, so I’m hopeful that might help.
As for my own advice to Elizabeth? We’re sort of going through the same thing and have been for a while — contemplating moving but within weird confines that straight people never really have to consider. So I get it. I’ll just cut to it from my own personal knowledge of my area and then I’ll leave the comments open for any other advice from your fellow readers
To all LGBTQ people that might be considering moving to LA for a gay friendly life I can tell you a few things:
1. It IS very gay friendly. We’re EVERYWHERE in the city and in the suburbs of LA. Which actually brings me to one of the most important factors: COST
LA is SUPER EXPENSIVE. It ranges of course, depending on where you look. If you want to live in West Hollywood in the middle of Gaytopia, you’re going to pay … a lot. But WeHo is a lot of gay boys. If you want the lesbian scene, Long Beach seems to be more lesbianic. It’s also cheaper. Parts of it anyways. But then if cost is really an issue, I would highly suggest you look in the surrounding areas of the gay meccas you’re interested, but maybe priced out of.
For example: Long Beach is a lesbian paradise. Rent is affordable – somewhat. But what if you have dogs and need a house? Then you could look right outside of Long Beach, in Carson, San Pedro, Wilmington (not my fave but VERY affordable) and pay a lot less to live, yet still you’re only about 15 minutes from the lesbian mecca!
2. LA is great but there are other Southern Cali areas I would suggest you look at. Starting with: Palm Springs!
Palm Springs is one of the gayest cities in America according to the census. And besides being the city that we got married in, (for those very gay reasons) it’s also amazingly affordable!!! In fact, it’s in my top 3 of relocation options.
Next, I would look in San Diego. Two of our best friends live down there and it’s about as gay friendly as it gets. It also seems more affordable then LA but with more nightlife options then say, Palm Springs.
I don’t really have too much more then that to offer, so hopefully others will chime in. Good luck with your search and please let us know how it turns out!