I have a question for your readers. I’m having a moral dilemma of sorts. Do you think it’s alright to date two women at once? I’ve never been in this position before and I’m not sure what to do. I can honestly say I like both equally but I don’t know either well enough to know if it will lead to anything serious, which is why I want to keep both for the time being. Since no one has said anything about being serious I figure it’s okay, but I don’t want to get away on a technicality and then be called a cheater. What do you think? All is fair when you’re single or is this cheating?
OK, so this is sort of a juicy question and one that I will gladly give you my two cents on and then open the comments to our lovely readers.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with dating two women at once, as long as neither one of them thinks that you’re exclusive with them. Being single is called SINGLE because you’re not committed to any ONE person. When you are, you are no longer single.
I know a lot of people have a problem with this and I don’t get why. Back in the stone age when I was single I dated more then one person at a time, consistently. In fact, I believe my record was juggling 5 women at a time. Did they all know about each other? No. But was I cheating? NO!!!! Why? Because I was SINGLE!!!!!
When you’re single is the time that you get to explore what makes you happy, what turns you on, WHO turns you on. Being single is the only time you will ever get the chance to be selfish about what YOU want and make no apologies for it.
Anyone that whines about this, doesn’t really understand the differences between “dating” and being in a committed relationship. Because granted, unfortunately there are a lot of people (men and women) that assume that 3 dates = exclusivity or that because they aren’t dating anyone else, you shouldn’t be either. Which is BULLSHIT and this is where the art of communication comes in.
I call it an art, because when done right, will actually allow you to be true to yourself and honest with those that are in your life.
I am not advocating acting like a total douche bag and playing games with girls hearts. Be honest with them. If they ask if you’re seeing someone else, tell them the truth and then let them decide if they still want to date you or not.
But … and here is where I’m going to get in trouble …. if they don’t ask, you don’t really have to volunteer that information either. I think it’s called plausible deniability?? LOL … no really. Because later, when the shit hits the fan and let’s face it, when you’re lying by omission, you’re treading some very grey water here. If she blows up on you the day she finds out there are other women, you can always claim, “But baby, I thought you knew?! I mean, I just assumed you were dating other people too since we never talked about it.”
OK, yes, that is a major player dick head move. Am I guilty of it? How do yo think I know what to say? But does it work? Yes. Sort of. If she’s really into you, it might get you a second chance with her. But be warned at this point, you will have to tell her if she’s not the only lady in your bed.
So to sum it up. Is it OK to date two women at once when you’re single? Yes, because if you think about that question, that’s actually the ONLY time it’s OK. So go for it. But be prepared to be honest if either one of them starts asking the hard questions.