By Guest Writer, DDK
To write a really long comment in the form of a blog here;
Sasha I think I see Remi’s point of view here. My girl loves to be my little suby and so does the girl that I’m seeing on and off. Although I’m not that into the whole S&M Dom and Sub stuff, I naturally fall into it and apparently am good at it. So what if my wifey likes to beg on her knees, be tied up and taken from behind. I do this out of love (even though candle wax can be scary to mess with). The other girl calls me daddy or at least did at one point, shes more submissive in the traditional high femme way.
You femmes are seductive and artful creatures. You love to be treated delicately yet some of you love to be treated roughly in a controlled environment, I get that in a way. I used to think “what if I hurt her” never have. She knows her limits and we often communicate. Diving in head first into a world thats less vanilla can be both frightening and exciting, I learn new things everyday about that side of my girl. In its own way it never gets old. In other ways I’m kind of horrified at what she wants me to do to her. I completely understand how Remi feels based on what you’ve said. Not that its a bad thing though 
If its not your thing than its not your thing. But it sure is something worth trying at least once in your lifetime if you can.
So I’m gonna keep this one short, because I want to write another blog in response to ALL the S&M chatter. But I do want to say, YES!! You do totally get where Remi is coming from! She told me so, aft I read this to her.
But you said something I’ve been thinking about all day!!
“shes more submissive in the traditional high femme way.” ….. WAIT!! What!!?? Is this a common trait of other high femmes??? And I have a brief hypothesis on this I’m wanting to discuss later too, but want to hear others opinions first.
*Thumbs up* Nothin’ else to say!
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Actually, that’s a lie, I do have a question. What does “submissive in the traditional high femme way” mean? What’s the non-traditional way?
Exactly Elegy!!! I actually loved that line. Some might be offended, like if they identify as a dominant high femme …. But I found it super intriquing!! Tell me more!
I don’t personally find it offensive, if I don’t fit the bill I don’t mind as it would simply mean I don’t fit DDK’s view of a traditional femme. If I do fit the bill, I also wouldn’t mind, because I still may not consider it something I’d take upon and into myself as what a “traditional femme” is. I’m genuinely curious, I feel like understanding it would help color the rest of the post. Intrigued indeed.
I also suspect I wouldn’t fit as when I read this line: “You love to be treated delicately yet some of you love to be treated roughly in a controlled environment, I get that in a way.” I smiled and my heart warmed, but the voice in my head matter-of-factly stated: No! I want to be the one being rough! I think this talkativeness is a matter of my needing to go to bed. Oh, insomnia, you make me such a party girl….
“Diving in head first into a world thats less vanilla can be both frightening and exciting, I learn new things everyday about that side of my girl. In its own way it never gets old. In other ways I’m kind of horrified at what she wants me to do to her.” There’s something so twisted and yet lovely about this, I like it.
I completely support individuality in sexual exploration so this comment is completely nonjudgemental. Coming from an abused (as an adult w two asshole men YEARS ago) I know I would TOTALLY freak out with SnM. The choking, slapping, tying up it would all hit to close to the violent unloving experiences. Mentally I TOTALLY get that SnM is completely different then an abusive relationship but my overly sensitive heart wouldn’t understand that. So I believe it is all about knowing yourself, knowing your partner and feeling safe enough, trusting that person enough to share that SnM level of intensity/ the experience itself. I hope I find a partner with whom I’d share that level of comfort just hope she understands she will not be doing SnM with me. Well maybe Sarah M’s comment “slapping pussy” – omg that’s hot.
To go into more detail with the high Femme/ traditional femmes. lol never met one in my life so far who was dominant in bed. granted I love femmes who can put me in my place when I’m cocky in the outside world, I still never met a dom in the bed room. yet. As I said you guys are lovely creatures, that sense of vulnerability that shows is something I love.
I have known 2 Dom, high femmes. But they were both bisexual, I wonder if that made a difference??
Oh and they were only Dom with other femmes.
Oh, no, I would not identify with “traditional femme” in that context, haha.
I’m sorry – my mind wandered after the hot wax part, still waiting for it to return (hopefully with candles and restraints)