By Guest Writer, Elegy
I don’t know what it is about strap-ons and dildos that at times make me amorous. I am not interested in giving anything to a man, be he cis or trans- it has nothing to do with dick attraction. I can recognize that it’s not a penis. Honestly, I’ve found dildos to be an inherently cleaner, more logical solution.
It’s all science, all attraction, all woman. It’s the idea, it’s the creation of her and I together, with so little separating us. With even more joining us together, more things to play with. I’m not saying the strap is even on a butch. I don’t picture it only that way, I’m flexible in my imagery- I just enjoy alliteration. In reality she could be so very femme, anything in-between.
I want her to know how much I love it; I want her to know how much she wants it by taking my time. It’s a power trip, knowing she’s got the hilt while the blade’s always in my control. Tracing it over, however softly, however long and slow that I want. Going between the tool and the wielder, back and forth, forming a phantom-nerve connection. A blacksmith, creating- as Sasha put it- the perfect hybrid.
This urge doesn’t come about often, it seems to be once or twice a year, but when I do find the concept appealing, I’m overcome with the desire to have a partner to push down onto the bed. Or the floor. Or the couch. Better pray it’s not the pavement. On the relatively rare occasion when the sensation does strike, it makes me want “Steak & Blow Jobs Day” to be every month- hell, maybe every week. And I don’t like steak.
Ladies, what say you?
Elegy
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OK, I’ll break the comment ice on this one. I totally agree and understand EVERY SINGLE WORD of this blog.
Personally, I usually hate toys. HATE THEM. But every once in a blue moon, I get that urge …. and last time I got that urge we bought a $150 harness and a $120 feeldoe. LOL, because I wanted us both to feel it at the same time ….. we used it 2x. Now it’s back in the drawer collecting dust till next year.
But that’s not the point … the point is, when I dated men, you couldn’t pay me enough money and hold a loaded gun to my head, to force me to give a guy a blowjob. It just wasn’t happening. It made me throw up. Literally. So I never did them.
But now, as a lesbian, there are times when I’m so fucking horny and craving penetration and kink that I would totally give head to my girl’s strap on….. we’ve talked about it …. it sounds hot to her. But so far, haven’t gone there …… But I would. And that’s the point. I would do it with her because it’s hot and if it turned her on, that it turns me on. And because of what it would be symbolic of …. of me being totally submissive to her ……… and that, I can dig.
I’m down. Not to take it but to give it. Submission is sexy. I enjoy ownership in every way possible sometimes. Find me a lady to take what I have to give and I promise it will be worth it.
Haha, that’s interesting- for you it is submission, to me it is (8 or 9 times out of 10) domination. And thanks for breaking the ice of it!
I got very interesting imagery from that blog. I have to say that we all have our erges and needs at some point in our life. We know what we like and want what we get, and if it happens to be a strap on or dildo then so be it. So long as its with someone that we care about. (Although I know some people just have sex for the pleasure and fun of it, and I absolutely and totally respect that.) Very good blog I enjoyed reading it. So thank you very much Elegy.
I enjoyed this post Elegy. You are a woman after my own heart.
Personally my domination/submission preferences are 6/10 respectively. I’ve never thought to do it with a dildo, the don’t appeal to me much.
Typo, I meant 6/4.
Haha, thanks guys.
The title of this post is just made of awesome!
Having said that–I will and have–sucked lesbian dick–it’s not my favorite but I don’t mind.
I have little interest in toys by myself, but I love getting strapped down & do dream of wearing a strap myself if I can find the right partner!
Very intimate Elegy! Love the description and how much you show your beautiful sexuality. Tools like this, to me, are mean’t to be about love. If and when I strap it on, it’s only then that we have communicated that we are both comfortable with the thought. I like the other intimacy first!
The other for me comes later in a possible relationship. That’s just me though…because I’m a femmelover in all aspects!
I see using toys that penetrate as being powerful and dominant. The toys are an end to the means to me.
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This was a great read! I can say that I have found my perfect partner. She is my femme and enjoys very much sucking a big butch cock. I can say it is very sexy and turns me on quite a bit. She just turns me on period, so whatever she does or wants me to do is amazing to me.
I really wish my girlfriend would comment on this one. I for one think it is kinda sad that this is a once a year thing for so many of you and even sadder that there is such a distaste (pardon the pun) for toys. I hate when women limit themselves in the bedroom. I will employ whatever freaky mind fucking toys & methods necessary to blow my woman’s fucking mind in the bedroom. And I will be the first one to say that it is hotter than hell to fuck my girlfriend with a strapon and then watch her look up at me while licking her juices off of my cock. I feel every tongue stroke. And I thank God every day for open-minded femmes.
Raye!! Omg! That comment makes me want to ask Remi to break out the strap on!!! Omg!! You two are too hot.
And Raye that comment makes me wish I was not single. My godness EVERYTHING about lesbians is HOT.
*blush* HA NOT!! but, honestly. raye i believe you just spoke for the both of us
Words cannot describe, so I’ll summarize my feelings towards the most recent comments with:
XD!
Personally I love using a strap on on my gf. And this is NOT a one time a month thing or a one time a year thing. This is a “as much as we can stand” thing. I am usually the aggressive one in the relationship which is a turn on for me to begin with. But, add a “cock” and wow. She will see just how good I am at making her be my bitch. We just recently bought
X a strap on that squirts lol. Thought we would try it out and see how it works out. Just came in the mail (yay sex toys via the mail!). So maybe I will update later about how it worked out 
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I wouldn’t mind hearing about it! I’ve only heard of those in the context of lezzies trying to get pregnant (totally from Autostraddle’s review/recap of The Real L Word). And clarification: I am not against strap ons and dildos are not a rare thing for me- it’s the active sucking of them as part of a seductive foreplay, or the whole scene that I’m touching on.