I am constantly trying to figure out a way to fight femme invisibility. I get emails every week from poor little femmes that can’t convince the world that they’re died in the wool, card carrying lesbians! Which is why I’m always coming up with new designs for my jewelry line. I just finished a new [...]
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Melting Away Stones: A Butch Perspective
By Guest Writer, Raye A lot of assumption, arguments, and judgments have been made about the phenomenon of “stone butches” over the years and being newly single and approaching the idea of new, unfamiliar lovers, I was contemplating this very subject the other day. While I am not a completely “stone” butch, I am pretty [...]
Advice for a Butch that loves a Femme
I recently received an email asking for advice and it was titled, Advice for a butch who loves a bipolar femme? After reading through it, it made my head spin a bit. I’m going to cut her problem down to a short summary because, basically she’s screwed. This butch loves this femme that is bipolar. [...]
Butches with Ink
A close friend of ours asked me if I took requests. Do I take requests?? Honey puh-leez! I’m all about pleasing Her question to me was actually more for the femmes in the audience. She kindly asks, “What do femmes think of butches with tattoos?” This by the way, is coming from a super suave, [...]
A Young Butch
I just read a comment from a young reader and she asks for some advice on figuring out if she’s butch or not. As you all know, this is not a simple “Yes or No” answer. So I decided to dedicate an entire post to it. This way, in addition to me being able to [...]
“Family”
I am not close to my family ….. at all. I didn’t grow up near any of my cousins or other relatives and I was lucky if I saw them once a year at Christmas. As we’ve all grown up it’s become painfully apparent to me that we will never be very close. Enter Facebook [...]
Because Butches Don’t Have Enough BS To Deal With
OK so I came across this article when I was searching for a hot pic of a butchie to post one day. I read it and wasn’t sure if I should feel insulted on behalf of my butch brethren or just amused that this was actually on wikiHow. I’m not a butch so maybe this [...]
Gay Bashers
Written by Guest Butch, K My neighbor seems uncomfortable with me. I was outside today with J and the kids…when our neighbor pulled up. Now seeing as how I was doing my butch thing (climbing around on the roof cleaning my gutters out and such like that,) I noticed a branch from my neighbors tree [...]
Bustin outta the closet
Written by Guest Butch, K Here it is. Let’s delve into my past. I’ve noticed that many of you CCL readers are questioning whether or not you fit under this so-called genderqueer umbrella. So I’ll tell you my story…. When I was younger….and by younger I mean a little elementary school kid. I always noticed [...]
Butch, Tomboi, Boi ????
So Remi and I have this ongoing discussion about how she’s the “butch” in the relationship … duhhhh ….. but she doesn’t identify as butch. I don’t get it. I think butch is less of a fashion statement and more of an attitude and a way you approach life. So instead of writing about it, [...]
If You Write It, They Will Come
I was pleasantly surprised when not one, not two, but several butch writers responded to my call for the “Write Butch.” I have felt for a long time that there is not enough information, education and general acceptance of the butch dynamic here in LA and probably in other parts of the country as well. [...]
Confessions of a Pillow Princess
I was having one of those uncomfortable conversations late one night in bed with my girlfriend. It went something like this: “It’s been two days.” “I know, I’m sorry. I’m just really tired.” “That’s what you said last night and the night before.” “I know, I’m sorry!” “Stop saying sorry! I just want to know [...]
a femme in the streets but a butch in the sheets
I would say that I am a femme/top. Whoa. What? Is that possible? Hell yea it’s possible. Normally this is not a problem, especially when two femmes are dating. I mean, someone’s got to bring the strap-on! Or even sans strap-on, someone’s got to be the aggressor. That person is usually me. Or at least [...]
Femme vs. Butch …. shouldn’t it be Butch + Femme?
What I’ve noticed when I talk to most lesbians is that they have a strong opinion on butch women. Maybe it’s just because we’re in LA, where the cultural idea of femininity is not only abundant, it’s extreme. If you doubt what I’m saying just look around at all the silicone walking around on two [...]
Do you choose the femme identity or does it choose you?
I was looking on Amazon for a book about the butch/femme dynamic and I saw a book called “Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity” and I was struck by something a reviewer wrote. What she said that caught my attention was: “My femme friends who are also in their 30′s and I have discussed whether or not [...]