I recently received an email asking for advice and it was titled, Advice for a butch who loves a bipolar femme? After reading through it, it made my head spin a bit. I’m going to cut her problem down to a short summary because, basically she’s screwed. This butch loves this femme that is bipolar. [...]
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Butches with Ink
A close friend of ours asked me if I took requests. Do I take requests?? Honey puh-leez! I’m all about pleasing Her question to me was actually more for the femmes in the audience. She kindly asks, “What do femmes think of butches with tattoos?” This by the way, is coming from a super suave, [...]
A Young Butch
I just read a comment from a young reader and she asks for some advice on figuring out if she’s butch or not. As you all know, this is not a simple “Yes or No” answer. So I decided to dedicate an entire post to it. This way, in addition to me being able to [...]
“Family”
I am not close to my family ….. at all. I didn’t grow up near any of my cousins or other relatives and I was lucky if I saw them once a year at Christmas. As we’ve all grown up it’s become painfully apparent to me that we will never be very close. Enter Facebook [...]
Gay Bashers
Written by Guest Butch, K My neighbor seems uncomfortable with me. I was outside today with J and the kids…when our neighbor pulled up. Now seeing as how I was doing my butch thing (climbing around on the roof cleaning my gutters out and such like that,) I noticed a branch from my neighbors tree [...]
Confessions of a Pillow Princess
I was having one of those uncomfortable conversations late one night in bed with my girlfriend. It went something like this: “It’s been two days.” “I know, I’m sorry. I’m just really tired.” “That’s what you said last night and the night before.” “I know, I’m sorry!” “Stop saying sorry! I just want to know [...]
a femme in the streets but a butch in the sheets
I would say that I am a femme/top. Whoa. What? Is that possible? Hell yea it’s possible. Normally this is not a problem, especially when two femmes are dating. I mean, someone’s got to bring the strap-on! Or even sans strap-on, someone’s got to be the aggressor. That person is usually me. Or at least [...]
Femme vs. Butch …. shouldn’t it be Butch + Femme?
What I’ve noticed when I talk to most lesbians is that they have a strong opinion on butch women. Maybe it’s just because we’re in LA, where the cultural idea of femininity is not only abundant, it’s extreme. If you doubt what I’m saying just look around at all the silicone walking around on two [...]
Do you choose the femme identity or does it choose you?
I was looking on Amazon for a book about the butch/femme dynamic and I saw a book called “Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity” and I was struck by something a reviewer wrote. What she said that caught my attention was: “My femme friends who are also in their 30′s and I have discussed whether or not [...]