An interesting turn of events have taken place since my posts on S/M and open relationships. (Besides learning that the proper acronym for S&M is simply SM or S/M) A few nights ago, I was reading the comments to Remi and she made a joke that she could get me a choke collar. I smiled and responded, “Promises, promises.”

She instantly took up my challenge and told me to look up BDSM shops. I did a quick search on Yelp and found The Pleasure Chest. It was one of the highest rated stores on Hollywood and I recently saw Bethany Frankel’s newest show where she was there, looking at vibrators. While perusing their website I saw that they were having an “extreme sex” class being given by Damon Holzum. The class started at 8:00. We looked at our watches and jumped in the car.

We got there a little late and it was standing room only once we finally got inside. I was totally bummed that we missed most of the “fisting” section since that is something I have yet to try. I want to, but I have my reservations. But we were in time for the “water sports” and “dirty play” section. We also learned about “sounding” …. Something I had never heard of!!! It was fascinating. Holzum was awesome. He was this super sweet, cute gay guy standing up there giving some great advice and education on topics seldom discussed in public. He was inspiring. I loved how open and knowledgeable he was on extreme sex acts!! And I realized while standing in the back of the class that I wanted to learn more about BDSM.

This particular class wasn’t on BDSM per say, but it was about opening your mind to new experiences, taking the time to educate yourself on them so that it’s a safe experience for all involved and then experiencing something new.

After the class was over, we found ourselves in the back part of the shop where all the goodies are. We literally ran over to the bondage section but had to wait our turn as 3 gay boys were busy taking turn spanking each other with some flogs. All we could hear after each swat was “Ohhh girl, yes! Again!” and then, “Girl NO!!! Not that hard!”

So we meandered around the store waiting our turn for the whips and chains section. Finding our way to the vibrators, we again faced a line. Only this time it was a line of lesbians. Apparently, everyone was feeling inspired after the class. So we turned around and walked over to the double ended dildos.

After the crowds moved and we were able to go back and find what we wanted, we looked down at our hands and realized we were about to drop a little $$ $ but it would be worth it. Remi’s picks were a black rubber collar for me and a flogging whip. My picks were the Groovy Chicks G-spot and clit vibrator and a double ended dildo. After looking at each other in the eyes and independently playing out in our mind’s eye what we had planned for our new toys, we almost ran to the cash register.

This was Wednesday night. We didn’t get to try out our new items until last night …… Which resulted in me realizing something ….. Maybe, I don’t need an open relationship at all. Maybe what we need is more communication and more experimentation.

Not that polyamory is off the table. Not at all. But this was just Wednesday night. A whole new world has just opened up for our marriage and I want to bring you all along. I think this is going to be a journey of kinky exploration and what’s kinkier then letting you all watch.