I must have some super serious writer’s block because I can’t freakin’ think of anything to write about that’s worth you reading. So, I thought I’d just ramble a bit.
We found a wedding venue. No, it’s not the Queen Mary. They want a lotta lotta money for cheese and crackers and I’d rather spend my money on getting my friends drunk and buying them lap dances.
Lap dances? Yep, you heard me right. We’re going to have burlesque dancers at our wedding. Because nothing says Pin Up theme more then some hotties dancing around in stilettos and pasties. Yes, we’ve pinned down a general theme: Pin-Up-Burlesque-Sexy-ass-half naked dancers theme. What do you think? Ok, so I’m still working on the wording before we order the invitations. But you get the vibe I’m going for don’t you?
I’ve been told by several people, that having burlesque dancers was a bit too much for a wedding. “Whaaa whaa whaaa.” Whatever! I used to dance and I have nothing but respect for a well trained dancer that knows how to work it in a corset. I refuse to let this wedding get too traditional in any sense of the word and I figure hiring gorgeous women to dance for us half naked, is keeping with that thought. Not to mention, it is a lesbian wedding. Hellooooooo?????? Why not showcase just how gay we really are then having some serious eye candy served up with desert?
I’m not telling where our final venue is just yet. Because, well ….. honestly two reasons and both of them make me sound like a pompous ass but that never stopped me before. The first reason is that the venue is somewhat of an undiscovered secret in Los Angeles but they’re getting more popular every day. And out of pure selfishness, I don’t want to make it even harder for us to book the date we want. And secondly …. I’ve had a little problem with stalkers here and there and the last thing I want it our wedding getting crashed by any people off their meds.
So before I go into any more detail about our wedding that is quickly becoming known as “Sasha & Remi’s Night of Debauchery” (at least I’m trying to get that to catch on, lol) I will leave you with a short little video of one of the dance company’s I am considering hiring for the night. What do you think?
I would really love any brainstorming you brilliant, wonderful readers might have on how I can tie up my theme in a short little phrase/title/theme for our invitations and whatnot.Till then …. enjoy the booty, errr … I meant beauty. 
My roommate and I agree that your dress should have a corset built in. Because that would be badass.
“…and the last thing I want is our wedding getting crashed by any people off their meds.” That right there almost made me pee. (And we both know you have more to worry about with the people ON their meds…seeing how we’re both off our meds and all.)
Woman. Seriously. Burlesque dancers?? Work it. If it makes you happy (and how can burlesque dancers not make you happy?), fuck what anyone else has to say, and just work it.
I’ve gotta say, although I think this idea is totally hot, I would seriously reconsider. Here’s why:
A) I just went back and read your “Imaginary Tea Party” post, and if part of your idea in having this wedding is to legitimize your relationship in the eyes of your Mormon family, this is probably not the way to go.
And B) As the bride, you should be the center of attention at your wedding, not the hot dancing girls–unless you’re planning on doing some hot sexy dance down the aisle that will upstage them all?
It’s your wedding, but maybe something a little more classy is called for? Either way I’ll enjoy reading about it, I’m sure
I have to agree with Natalie on that “off their meds” honestly I LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Or I can stand at the door and pass out my back spasm meds- Valium LOL then you have one VERY mellow, happy crowd. LOL) As for the dancers, being a dancer myself like you I love and respect all forms of dance so go for it- go for whatever makes you happy. Hummmm personally I wish the Burlesque dancers were much more butch looking
(since butch looking is OMG so sexy to me-smiles), but that’s just my 2 cents and your can’t buy much for 2 cents. lol Bottom line- it’s your/Remi’s wedding so what you guys want goes. And If you are happy Sasha then I am happy. I wish you and Remi termendous happiness everyday.
@JustaNotha … thank you for the thoughts and I do see your point. And yes, I did say at one point that I wanted this ceremony to “prove something”. But after thinking about it long and hard, my final thoughts are as follows:
FUCK TRADITION. FUCK SMALL MINDED PEOPLE. FUCK ANYONE THAT DOESN’T LIKE IT. IT’S OUR WEDDING AND NO ONE ELSE’S OPINION MATTER.
I want this night to be a reflection on our personalities and honestly, say what you will about burlesque dancers (be careful though since I’ve done my fair share
) it is a perfect representation of us. And to be honest I am 100000000000% sure that none of my family will actually attend and if they do, I hope it puts a little spice in their lives 
And as far as being upstaged by the beautiful ladies, I’m secure enough to not worry about that and I have a few surprises planned ….
stay tuned. 
I’m with Natalie on this one. WERKIT’ GURRRRLLLLL!!!!!
It’s F&*^ING HOTTTTT AS HELLLLLLL that you’re going to have burlesque dancers at your wedding!!!! I have never heard of that before. So total bonus points for originality and I’m sure you’re planning a night your friends and family won’t soon forget.
I want to go!!!!
……and fuck paying a photographer because Jazi has photographed weddings and will do it for free…
lol I just had to throw that in there – in a friendship nonstalker type of way LOL plus thought you needed a little LYAO-hehe get it LaughYourAssOff- ok I offically need another vacation. 
Lol. I think you’re confusing your actual wedding from your Bachelorette Party.
And there’s a reason that people don’t invite their families to their bachelorette parties. Awkward..
P.S. I love the Britney thing the dancers have going on at 0:13.
I’m a sucker for fedoras.
OMFG!!!! I so want to go to this wedding. I’ts probably smart you don’t tell us where it’s going to be because I would totally be outside with a high powered scope and camera trying to see the party!
Sasha, have you considered having a contest to win tickets to your wedding??? I bet theres a lot of us who would love a chance to win a spot on that guest list!!!
That’s cool. Weddings are usually kinda boring, and I always thought people should have more fun with them. I mean, it is supposed to be a party, right?
I have known Sasha since she was 19 and I’ve seen her perform both belly dance and burlesque quite a few times. Let me assure you that she will not be “upstaged” by any other dancers no matter what. I know I’m a little biased but anyone that has ever seen her perform knows what I’m talking about. Some people were born to perform and she’s one of them. I don’t know why she ever stopped.
I also can attest to the fact that having a racy, risque evening of debauchery to mark her marriage IS a perfect reflection of Sasha’s personality. I think it’s a brilliant idea. I wouldn’t have expected anything less then outside the box thinking and pushing the limits with this girl. Not to mention, I have no doubt that she will somehow pull this off with the usual class and grace she is known for. Don’t worry people, our girl Sasha has this thing tied up.
Weddings are just like the people marrying each other- unique and special for personal meaning that those besides the couple do not need to understand. One of my dear friends is a fire dancer and at their wedding they had a huge fire show. That is not a traditional wedding event, but no one there questioned it because we all know the couple very well. Actually everyone kept saying they could not imagine them not having that at their wedding. It is ALL about what means the most to both of you. You go Sasha. You know I root for you completely in everything you do.
(Total side note I REALLY hope you are over your damn cold/cough!!!!!!)
Thank you Jazi
*hugs*
I love this idea. Awesome originality and it will be a night that no one will ever forget. Knowing your style, it will no doubt be done with decorum. I hope I didn’t frighten you when I teased Raye about crashing her and Sarah’s nuptials. I think it is wise to keep the location a secret regardless. Good to hear from you. =)
Right, Jazmenha – aren’t there any butch dancers? That would be hot. Trousers, ties and fedoras… Well, I guess it wouldn’t be very profitable for butches to be dancers because their audience would be femmes. And as has been discussed here, femmes don’t pay : )
Sasha, you don’t exactly sound like the standard-issue girl. Nor does Remi. So why have a standard-issue wedding? Let your wedding be like a canvas for your creativity and personal expression. When you both look back on it in twenty years, would you happily reminisce that you had a basic wedding that pleased your straight relatives, or would you more enjoy pulling off the one that people are still talking about and that still connects with you?
I think you’re on the right track.
Btw, none of your family attending? Not your supportive mom?
Rexie, thank you for your wonderful way of looking at things and I totally agree. I’ve felt like this has been a great opportunity to challenge myself and get as creative as possible. And no, I wasn’t thinking of YOU crashing because that would be more of a wedding present if you were to show up! You and a few other of my favorite readers
Kenda, I’m sorry I should have been clear about the no family thing. I meant extended family, i.e. the conservative Mormon part which is everyone except for my amazing mom and awesome father and my one open minded aunt and sister.
Not to mention, Remi’s siblings will be there and they’re my NEW family. 
So I’m ok with it. I guess.
I think it’s ridiculous. Ridiculously AWESOMEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! I agree with another reader that said you should have a contest for readers to win invites to your wedding. Hell, I’d pay to go! This is going to be a major Lesbian event in LA!!!! You should look into getting sponsored. I bet businesses would be more then happy to trade some services, entertainment, etc for the advertising they’ll get from CCL. OMG I’m so excited!!!
Hi Sasha, I’ve been a huge fan of yours forever now. I’ve never commented before because I’m shy but what the hell. I think this is the most sexy, amazing, awesome, did I say sexy idea anyone has ever had for a wedding. I can totally see why you’re not worried about the dancers over shadowing you,becuase really, they couldn’t if they tried. You’re an amazingly beautiful person in and out. So many brides try to play down the beauty of other women that day, by putting their best friends in ugly maid of honor dresses, not letting other women wear white, shit like that. Because they’re afraid of not being the center of attention or the most beautiful woman there. But you are hiring sexy dancers to entertain your guests. Nothing says self confidence then a bride that can do that!!!! But then again, most brides don’t look like you. Remi is one fucking lucky butch. But then again I guess she knows that or she wouldn’t have given you a GINORMOUS rock on your hand that screams, HANDS OFF THIS FEMME IS TAKEN!!! LOL, I would to if I had that kind of money and a woman like you. Wow, I think I had too many red bulls.
=^_^=
<3
Kenda- Yes wouldn’t that be crazy hot!!!!! OMG!!!!! (Ok I have to calm down on that one. LOL But hello!!!!!)
since she wrote a blog on a ? I asked once and used “…one of my favorite readers”. 
Rexie- Ok it IS in writing now, “And no, I wasn’t thinking of YOU crashing because that would be more of a wedding present if you were to show up! You and a few other of my favorite readers.” And I know I am included in that hehe
So we won’t even have to hid in the bushes as originally thought. LOL
Sasha- It is so wonderful to see you so excited about your/Remi special day and to see you writing again.
Rexie- Typo – meant “hide” lol
Butch Loving- I totally agree with you on your comment “Because they’re afraid of not being the center of attention or the most beautiful woman there. But you are hiring sexy dancers to entertain your guests. Nothing says self confidence then a bride that can do that!!!!” Sasha is a strong, confident, beautiful woman.
WHy not do the burlesque part at the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding? Not to be all heteronormative and all, but rehearsal dinners/stag parties are more often the events that showcase the more raunchy aspects of sexuality/physical attraction (which of course *is* the glue that holds the couple’s relatationship together/distinguishes it from “just friends”). WHy do you feel a need to “showcase just how gay [you] really are?” You’re *two girls* who are getting fucking *married*–it doesn’t get much more gay than that, honey!
The event is already not “too traditional.”
ANd for whom would you be “showcasing”? OK, I’m going to risk getting flamed here. And I say this as a big fan of your blog (it’s helpled me to grow and become more self-aware in my queerness) and with much love: Why do you need to “showcase” anything other than your love for each other? From my vantage point (and, admittedly, I am a bit older than most of the blog’s writers and readers) this “showcasing” explanation strikes me as a little, well, immature. *Cringe. Ducks in readiness for flaming spears.*
Your friends are likely the ones who would most enjoy the lapdances (and hey, I’m no prude: how do I get on the guestlist for this homo-sexiness?
. Although I can imagine that some brothers, cousins, even dads might also enjoy it, but this “showcasing” isn’t supposed to be for a het male gaze anyway, right? So why not have the go-go dancers in a smaller venue, the night before, with a smaller more select crowd that “gets it”? Just my two cents.
I think that, in the years ahead, you might appreciate how you extended your celebration over two days instead of just one, and have pleasant memories of two events marking your union that were of significantly different character.
Not going to flame you for your opinions, Boxeadora, but I wholeheartedly disagree. The rehearsal dinner doesn’t include the guests, and Sasha apparently wants to celebrate her union to Remi in style by hosting an evening that will be remembered by all. In the coming years, friends and family will reminisce about wedding, not the rehearsal. I think our girl Sasha has out done herself in the creativity department. The sparkle of this event will never fade.
Hi Boxeadora, I’m not going to flame you …. thank you for your comment and your concern
You’re not the only that feels that way, trust me. But you and Justa Notha brought up several points that I want to address. But I fear that would be a bit much for a comment, so I’m actually going to use that as inspiration for my next blog later today. Please don’t take that as “flaming” you! Or getting attacked, I promised it’s neither. I just want to get my side of it out there 
And thank you for giving me something more to write about!!!!
It’s your day, your way and I admire you for sticking to your guns; no point shelling out thousands for a party you find stuffy and boring.
We ended up ruling out a drag queen for the evening entertainment to prevent causing offense my wife’s very old fashioned Jamaican family (some members of which we were lucky to have attend at all) and ultimately I think our traditional wedding really contributed to her and my family getting behind us and really celebrating rather than tolerating. That said, out of principle, I would never encourage conforming for the sake of small minded judgemental homophobes…all we can do is what we feel is right for us (and in our case that was a quiet life!)