Found this in my inbox:
1. What exactly is a Card Carrying Lesbian?
2. What are ALL the different types of lesbians?
I wasn’t even sure if this was a legitimate email asking for some advice or some guy being sarcastic. But I decided to go ahead and have a little fun with this. Please notice the word FUN. People tend to get their boyshorts in a bunch when I start labeling things. This is not meant to be any definitive log of all types of lesbians. This is merely a starting point of the types of lesbians that I am familiar with. Please feel free to add to this list in the comments section.
What is a Card Carrying Lesbian?
It is any woman that openly identifies as a lesbian. She is not bisexual, or bicurious, or currently married to a man. She is 100% lesbian. She can be femme, butch, androgynous, any type of lesbian! To be a member of the Card Carrying Lesbian tribe, she simply must declare herself one and then live a life of a proud dyke.
What are ALL the types of lesbians? Well I found this convenient little list over at The Lez Get Real site.
*my notes will be in pink*
Ten Types of Lesbian
Dyke or Butch
A lesbian who dresses and behaves in a masculine fashion.
I don’t know about the dyke part. I ID as dyke. I think Dyke can refer to any and all lesbians. But I do think that butch lesbians get called dyke more often by ignorant a-holes. I like to reclaim that word though.
Femme, Lipstick Lesbian, or Girly Girl
A lesbian who dresses and behaves in a feminine fashion.
Basically if a lesbian is always mistaken for a straight girl she is probably a femme.
A lesbian who is both femme and butch.
This term confuses me. I think of a butch in the streets but a femme in the sheets. Yea? No? I dunno.
A lesbian who is strongly masculine in character and dress, who tops her partners sexually (and sometimes emotionally), and who does not wish to be touched genitally.
A lesbian who is femme, who is the receiver in sexual interactions, and who does not wish to be touched genitally.
Totally disagree with the last definition of this. Stone femme in my experience have been extremely sexual but do not always reciprocate. I know I wrote about this but couldn’t find it in the archives. Any die hard fans know which post I’m referring too? Stone femme to me, is a high femme that uses her sexuality as power play.
A soft butch — also known as a chapstick lesbian — is a woman who exhibits some stereotypical butch lesbian traits without fitting the masculine stereotype associated with butch lesbians.
Ellen is a perfect example of this.
A young, inexperienced and/or boyish lesbian; also sometimes called a Baby Butch.
Baby Dyke is any type of lesbian that’s newly out. She can be 50 years old and fresh out of a lie of a marriage with 4 children and still be a baby dyke. It’s about the newness of the experience. Not the age or category.
A submissive butch.
Um, NOOOOOOOO!!!!! Tomboi is more like chapstick lesbian. Remi identifies as a tomboi and she’s a top in every sense of the word. Basically this should have read: see chapstick or soft butch for definition.
Lesbian Until Graduation
A woman experimenting with or adopting a temporary lesbian identity.
Been there done that. College lesbians. High school lesbians. Bleh, I just threw up in my mouth a little. These are usually the girls that fuck over real lesbians.
A woman who has identified as a lesbian in the past but now identifies as heterosexual.
AKA an old version of #9