Month: July 2010

Abusive Lesbians

Please tell me why so many women, straight and gay put up with abusive relationships? I get emails every week from women in terrible relationships. All sorts, femmes getting abused by their butches, butches taking verbal and physical hits from their femmes and butchies in love with other butchies that hurt them. WTF is wrong with us? Why do we make excuses for the people that hurt us? I know, I wrote “us.” No I am not in an abusive relationship right now. In fact, Remi is the best thing to ever happen to me. But I have been in horrible relationships in the past and it took me too long to get out of them. That’s why when I read the emails from anonymous women, I don’t feel like they’re anonymous. I feel like I know them, because I’ve been there. And I want so much for them to listen to what I have to say, but I know full well that just like me, they won’t leave the relationship a minute before they’ve had enough. But why do we stay for so long, when even a moment after the first time they hurt us is too much? Many reasons. These are just a few: Because we love them and think that they can change with our help, with counseling, with prayer, with our love ..... with something. Because they love us. Or so they tell us after they’ve hit us or yelled at us and now are begging our forgiveness, swearing it will never happen again. Uh huh. Because it’s not really them ..... it’s the disease, it’s the alcohol, it’s the drugs, it’s the _____ fill in the blank for whatever excuse you give them. Because we want to save them from themselves, their past, their disease. Because they need us. Biggest bullshit answer yet! If they needed us or loved us so much then they should treat us better! Hello? Is logic home?
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A Lesbian Gene?

Don't tell Mickey but we could totally turn his girlfriend gay! Original PostBy Shamecca Harris, 365gay.com Researchers have found that female mice can be turned lesbian…
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My Top 5 Gingers

I never realized how much I loved redheads until I lived with Remi. Which is odd since Remi has jet black hair. But every time a redhead would come on TV, I would usually remark on her classic beauty, her ethereal elegance, or just how damn sexy I thought she looked! But I never realized, until Remi pointed it out, that it was 99% of the time a redhead that would catch my attention. I just always thought it was a beautiful woman. It wasn't until Remi started pointing out the consistencies in hair color did I start to wonder, why do I love redheads so much? It wasn't hard to figure out. One of my first ballet teachers was a drop-dead gorgeous ginger. She looked a lot like Julianne Moore. I was just a young girl and she embodied everything I wanted to be at the time; an amazing dancer, thin, beautiful, graceful ...... and she had red hair! I never wanted red hair myself, but it obviously left an impression on my little girl brain. Because my big girl, lesbian brain just goes ga-ga over a beautiful redhead. Here are a few of my favorites. In no particular order ....
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Lesbian-ish Artwork

I have that picture on the back of my iPod Touch. I love it. Whenever someone see's it they always comment on it and I can see from the "Ahh ah!" Look on their face that they've connected the dots and realized I'm gay. The artist is Stella Im Hultberg and from some of her work I wonder if she's a lesbian?
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My Lonely 4th

Remi’s going out of town for the weekend. She leaves Friday morning and she won’t get back till Monday night. I’m happy for her that she gets to see her entire family for the 4th but totally going through withdrawals already. This is the first time we’re going to be apart since she moved in a year and half ago. Not even a single night has been spent without her in bed next to me. I’m so depressed right now. OMG I’m so co-dependent it’s pathetic. I’m sure some of you are wondering why I’m not going with her? She asked me to go but I couldn’t. As soon as we started dating seriously, I gave her the disclaimer: I can do almost any holiday with you and yours, except for the 4th of July. Because my corgi, Willow is so afraid of the fireworks, she works herself up and makes her self sick. I can not leave her. No matter what. And I meant it. So when the camping trip of a lifetime came up, with her entire brood of siblings (Who all happen to be incredibly fun people to hang out with, and boy does this family know how to party! They make my family look down right boring.) I was totally bummed when it was planned for the 4th. But there was no way I was going to let Remi miss this chance to see her whole family. She’s the only one in California and hardly ever gets so see her siblings. So I booked her a ticket right away.
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