LDR’s and Dildo Etiquette
A reader wrote in: I’m currently in a LDR with a butch and I am femme. She recently came to visit and we bought a dildo…
Advice For Mixed Message Lesbians
I recently got this little email asking for some advice. And before I share it with you, let me apologize to all of you that I…
How To Kiss Girls
I recently received the following email: (slightly edited for anonymity) Hi Sasha! My name is M, and I just have a few questions for you, because…
TOMBOI Culture: STYLE IS FREEDOM
STYLE IS FREEDOM is this cool fashion brand that I came across earlier this year when I was looking for birthday presents for Remi. Trying to…
Tips for Femme Invisibility: How To Set Off Their Gaydar
Are you an Invisible Femme in the Lesbian Community?
Ask yourself a serious question now: “How gay is your instagram?”
Is the Butch/Femme Dynamic Dying Out?
Is Butch and Femme still a thing?? I mean, it must be, because it’s more about energy than looks. I’ve dated butch looking women that had very femme energy and vice versa. So, if you really think about it, the terms we’ve always used, like butch and femme, can still be used. Even in this changing and ever shifting landscape.
Self-Partnered Lesbians
‘Single’ in today’s society has a sort of transitory feel to it, since coupledom seems to be the norm. But the term ‘Self-Partnered’ sounds like a choice and a commitment, to one’s self. It sounds thought out and purposeful.
Lesbian Dating 101: Who Pays?
Who pays on a lesbian date? That is a recurring question from many readers over many years and I can see why, because the answer isn't…